Steve Pavlina on self-limiting beliefs and benefiting from The Lefkoe Method
Posted Oct 17 2009 10:00pm
“I believe I can fly; I believe I can touch the sky; I think about it every night and day; Spread my wings and fly away; I believe I can soar…”
Dick (Jim Carrey) from a scene in Fun with Dick and Jane. Feeling exuberantly self-assured after getting a promotion, he sings the R. Kelly song in an elevator.
But aside from those kinds of energizing positive sentiments, we are often dealing with self-limiting beliefs.
In a recent post, Steve Pavlina notes, “Limiting beliefs can seriously hold us back in life. But most of the time such beliefs are invisible to us. They control some of our thoughts and behaviors behind the scenes, enough to curtail our results in some area of life.
“For example, if you have the false belief that mistakes and failure are bad, then you’ll avoid many growth and learning experiences because you have to be willing to fail in order to build new skills.
“As another example, if you have the belief that rejection is a bad thing, you’ll avoid approaching new people, and you’ll miss out on many wonderful social connections.”
He asks, “ Where do these beliefs come from? ”
“Many limiting beliefs get installed during childhood, but that isn’t always the case. The pattern is that your mind drew false generalization based on one or more specific events. It assigned questionable meanings to those events, and those interpretations are disempowering you.
“As a result your mind blocks you from taking certain actions, even though the actions may be reasonable and intelligent choices.
Overcoming self limiting beliefs
Pavlina continues, “In order to remove a limiting belief, It isn’t enough to identify and acknowledge it. You may be aware of some of your limiting beliefs, but awareness of them isn’t necessarily enough to keep them from operating in your life. You may be aware that rejection isn’t such a terrible thing, but your subconscious is still conditioned to avoid it. Awareness is an important part of the solution, but it isn’t the whole solution.”
He writes about being in Bermuda for the Transformational Leadership Council retreat, and meeting Morty Lefkoe, who helped him deal with limiting beliefs he had.
“Morty took me through a fairly straightforward cognitive process that allowed my mind to eliminate false beliefs that I’d been carrying around for years. After the retreat we did a couple more sessions by phone in order to eliminate some additional beliefs that were holding me back…”