When Carl first contacted me for life coaching, he had a list of what he called problems. Although Carl referred to these situations in his life as problems, what was really true was that Carl’s experience of life was different than what he wanted it to be.
We discussed his concerns about his relationship, his finances and his career which just about covers it. Depending on the last email or phone conversation, Carl’s emotions shifted much like a ping pong match ball.
I suggested that he make a small change in the morning. Rather than rolling out of bed and having a cup of coffee, I told him to just sit for five minutes. Not too much to ask——not too much to integrate into the morning.
In essence it was just a small shift in how he started his morning. Think about it. There are 1440 minutes in a day. Just change what you do in the first five minutes. That was just the beginning. It was suggested that he increase this time one minute per week in silence before he did anything else until he reached 20 minutes.
Carl noticed that he was calmer and that when he faced a so-called problem he was able to see possibilities that previously he was unable to see.
Over time, Carl noticed that not only was he less frustrated, he began to look at what was possible. And then I asked him to think about what his life would be like if what concerned him turned out better than he expected.
Perhaps you are familiar with the expression, “A journey of a 1000 miles begins with the first step.” Those steps might seem small, but they make a big difference in what’s possible in your life. And those small steps are much easier to implement.