More Paradoxes of a Happiness Project: I Desire to Not Want.
Posted Dec 21 2009 11:28am
One of my Secrets of Adulthood (cribbed from Niels Bohr) is "The opposite of a great truth is also true." As I’ve worked on my happiness project, I’ve recognized many paradoxes.
In Marc Lesser’s book Less: Accomplishing More by Doing Less, I read a fascinating list of such paradoxes by Chade-Meng Tan, a Google engineer whose title is “Jolly Good Fellow.”
I was quite struck by his list – and also by the number of times that my resolutions and paradoxes overlapped with his.
His list, with my comments:
I strive hard to be lazy. I resolve to Force myself to wander. I’m selfishly compassionate. This reminds me of the Second Splendid Truth! I desire to not want. Oh, I recognize that one. Sometimes, I’m not myself. Often, I’m not here, where I am. I have a big problem with this one, mindfulness. I actively engage in nonactivity. I resolve to Schedule time to play. I feel spiritual about my earthly desires. I loooove this one. I sometimes fail at failing. I have to remind myself to Enjoy the fun of failure. I make careless mistakes carefully. Sometimes, my mind is full of nothing. My own arrogance humbles me. I’ve become a famous unknown. I sometimes pity the more fortunate.
Have you found any paradoxes in your happiness project?
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