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Living Joyfully and No Expectations

Posted Apr 11 2010 8:58am

I am busy putting the finishing touches on the Living Joyfully workshop I will begin teaching next week. This workshop will encompass much of what I write about here on the blog. It’s all about connecting with your authentic spirit and channeling that into your day to day life. Essentially, I will guide you through living from the inside out and being fulfilled and joyful in the process. I will also help you to let go of the things that hold you back from experiencing joy in your life. It will be a lot of fun; growing and expanding always is!

Class meets on Tuesday evenings from 6:30 to 8:30 for four weeks beginning April 20th. If you are in the San Diego area and are interested in attending this workshop, click here for registration information.

Fresh posts will begin again in May 2010. For now, please enjoy a post I published last June.

No Expectations

Friday afternoon I listened to a replay of an interview between Dr. Oz and Eric Weiner on XM Radio. Eric Weiner was on the show to discuss his new book, The Geography of Bliss: One Grump’s Search for the Happiest Places in the World . I have not read this book, but the interview made me very interested in doing so. One part of the conversation resonated with me. Eric Weiner stated that the reason some of the happiest places in the world are so is that the people there have “no expectations.”  He said many people, especially Americans, get upset over this concept. We grumble, “How can you not have expectations in life? Everyone would just sit on the couch and watch sports all day if that were the case!”  He stated that the opposite is true, actually. In these countries (I believe Denmark was his example, but don’t quote me), most people strive to do their best and work very hard. The difference for them versus Americans and people in other parts is that they are not attached to the outcome of their work. In other words, they are not writing to become a national best-selling author; they are not acting to become famous; they are not doing their best at work to be praised or promoted. They do their best because they care; they work hard because that fulfills them. And they let the rest go. What will be, will be. And so, as a nation, these people are happier than others around the globe.  

Something like this came up last year in the webcast for A New Earth with Eckhart Tolle and Oprah Winfrey. Tolle was discussing embracing the present moment and letting go of the ego, which cares only about the past and the future. Readers had trouble with this concept. They wondered, over email and skype, how are we to function if we live only in the present moment? Are we to no longer have goals? What does this mean exactly, for our future? Tolle explained that you can look to the future by way of planning on your calendar when you will meet a friend for coffee or finish writing a chapter for your book. And, you can set goals for yourself. But you only truly achieve happiness if the road to meeting your goals is met with you being engaged and alive in one present moment followed by the next. When we live in the present moment, we become aligned with our higher purpose. This is satisfying to us in a way that is beyond happiness. When you are living like this, you too, will release your attachment to expectations and outcome. Does this mean that traditionally defined success passes you by? No. When you are connected to the source and alive and present in the moment, people will be attracted to the energy and quality of your work. You will naturally ascend the ranks. But not by way of the Ego which seeks praise and promotion by “suffering” through hard work only as a means to an end. Essentially, when you follow your bliss, promotions happen, praise happens, but as the result of living and working from that space inside you that is connected to something bigger. This is what living joyfully is all about. Living like this is what makes a country “happy”.  

I am very interested in what else can be learned from other happy nations around the world. Thanks to Eric Weiner for what is surely a great book.

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