Have you ever reached a point in your marriage when things were regularly inconsistent between you and your spouse? It's as if no one is on the same page? I've been there and it seemed an eternity that 
my husband and I grappled with an area in our marriage: his reluctance to come home at a decent hour. But, trying everything in my strength to deal with his negative behavior failed and things looked hopeless.
At my wits end, I fell on my face and cried out to God for help. Immediately, God's presence cradled me. and he etched these words in my spirit: Do not argue with him, but let your behavior speak instead.
Striving for oneness in your marriage is no walk in the park. Especially when you feel like the weight of maintaining peace weighs heavy on your shoulders. The struggle in my marriage seemed to throw me into an exhausting game of tug of war. The problem was that the rope had unraveled in the middle leaving my husband and me on separate ends.
When God spoke his word to my spirit, he also caused my mind to drift back to my mom. I recalled how she constantly argued and fussed with my dad when trying to get him to do or be something other than what he wanted. The end result was that he didn't budge until he was ready.
With God's thoughts planted in my heart, he called me to do something big: trust him with my relationship with my husband. I have to admit, it wasn't easy acting lovingly or allow my words to be "sweet as honey." My husband didn't change overnight; it was a long process. That's why it is key to learn to trust God and his timing.
"God's word is true. It will not return unto him void. It will accomplish what he says" (Isaiah 55:11KJV).
One night when my husband came home late, he found me face down in our closet. He came in and laid with me. I was quiet for a moment and then he asked, "What is wrong with you? Why aren't you fussing like y 
ou normally do?" I simply replied, "God said not to." Once he recognized that there would be no argument, he was shocked. However, I did tell him I didn't condone his behavior and requested he stop.
It is so easy to take matters into our own hands when God takes too long. But we have to remember that, "Gods ways are not our ways nor are his thoughts our thoughts" (Isaiah 55:8). He is a soverign God that doesn't need help in solving our problems but learning to trust Him requires total obedience of his word. The Bible says, "Be ye doers of God's word and not hearers only" (James 1:22). No matter how difficult the trial, God will see us through. But we must learn to trust him.
God knows and understands your heart and He also knows just how much you can bear. I encourage you today to seek God for that unsettled issue you can't put to rest. You may have sought the advice of a counselor, girlfriend, or relative, but no one can speak a word and change your situation the way God can. If we seek God in the midst of troubles in our marriage, we will be witnesses to the fruit of learning to trust in Him.
Have you ever reached a point in your marriage when things were regularly inconsistent between you and your spouse? It's as if no one is on the same page? I've been there and it seemed an eternity that
my husband and I grappled with an area in our marriage: his reluctance to come home at a decent hour. But, trying everything in my strength to deal with his negative behavior failed and things looked hopeless.
At my wits end, I fell on my face and cried out to God for help. Immediately, God's presence cradled me. and he etched these words in my spirit: Do not argue with him, but let your behavior speak instead.
Striving for oneness in your marriage is no walk in the park. Especially when you feel like the weight of maintaining peace weighs heavy on your shoulders. The struggle in my marriage seemed to throw me into an exhausting game of tug of war. The problem was that the rope had unraveled in the middle leaving my husband and me on separate ends.
When God spoke his word to my spirit, he also caused my mind to drift back to my mom. I recalled how she constantly argued and fussed with my dad when trying to get him to do or be something other than what he wanted. The end result was that he didn't budge until he was ready.
With God's thoughts planted in my heart, he called me to do something big: trust him with my relationship with my husband. I have to admit, it wasn't easy acting lovingly or allow my words to be "sweet as honey." My husband didn't change overnight; it was a long process. That's why it is key to learn to trust God and his timing.
"God's word is true. It will not return unto him void. It will accomplish what he says" (Isaiah 55:11KJV).One night when my husband came home late, he found me face down in our closet. He came in and laid with me. I was quiet for a moment and then he asked, "What is wrong with you? Why aren't you fussing like y
ou normally do?" I simply replied, "God said not to." Once he recognized that there would be no argument, he was shocked. However, I did tell him I didn't condone his behavior and requested he stop.
It is so easy to take matters into our own hands when God takes too long. But we have to remember that, "Gods ways are not our ways nor are his thoughts our thoughts" (Isaiah 55:8). He is a soverign God that doesn't need help in solving our problems but learning to trust Him requires total obedience of his word. The Bible says, "Be ye doers of God's word and not hearers only" (James 1:22). No matter how difficult the trial, God will see us through. But we must learn to trust him.
God knows and understands your heart and He also knows just how much you can bear. I encourage you today to seek God for that unsettled issue you can't put to rest. You may have sought the advice of a counselor, girlfriend, or relative, but no one can speak a word and change your situation the way God can. If we seek God in the midst of troubles in our marriage, we will be witnesses to the fruit of learning to trust in Him.
