In our executive coaching session today, Fred expressed to me how his day usually goes. He leaves the house usually in a good mood. But as the day progresses, according to Fred he gets chewed up by the stresses of running his company. By the time the day is over he feels beat up and can’t wait to get home.
But home is no picnic either. His wife also has concerns. Instead of chillin, Fred has more problems to solve. And it’s the same with his wife.
Fred thinks that he will outlive his problems. “Eventually they’ll go away and then his life can go back to normal,” he thinks. But his life now is normal with all of the problems that he has. Nothing is going to change unless Fred changes inside. If you tend to get stressed out by things, you’ll always find something to get stressed out about. That’s Fred’s nature and the nature of many others.
What i saw as positive in Fred’s life was that he started the day in a good mood. What I suggested to Fred was that he notice when he starts to get uptight. If he catches himself soon enough when he starts to lose it, he can avoid going ballistic.
The goal is to keep extending the amount of time that you can stay in the good mood. Soon you make it to noon before stressing. And over time you make it through the whole day.
But you have to do your part. As I written about previously, instead of rushing out of the house, take the time for morning meditation. Gradually that peacefulness that you leave the house in the morning with, will extend over greater periods of time. I suggest with new clients who haven’t meditated before to begin with five minutes focusing on their breath.
It’s not a quick fix. It’s something that becomes part of you, like brushing your teeth.Getting rid of stress is a serious proposition. It’s takes commitment and you can do it. Make the commitment now. Make time for you.
JOURNEY ON
MARK
JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow,JD, is an Executive and Life Coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former successful trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Signup! http://www.inspirepossibility.com
In our executive coaching session today, Fred expressed to me how his day usually goes. He leaves the house usually in a good mood. But as the day progresses, according to Fred he gets chewed up by the stresses of running his company. By the time the day is over he feels beat up and can’t wait to get home.
But home is no picnic either. His wife also has concerns. Instead of chillin, Fred has more problems to solve. And it’s the same with his wife.
Fred thinks that he will outlive his problems. “Eventually they’ll go away and then his life can go back to normal,” he thinks. But his life now is normal with all of the problems that he has.
Nothing is going to change unless Fred changes inside. If you tend to get stressed out by things, you’ll always find something to get stressed out about. That’s Fred’s nature and the nature of many others.
What i saw as positive in Fred’s life was that he started the day in a good mood. What I suggested to Fred was that he notice when he starts to get uptight. If he catches himself soon enough when he starts to lose it, he can avoid going ballistic.
The goal is to keep extending the amount of time that you can stay in the good mood. Soon you make it to noon before stressing. And over time you make it through the whole day.
But you have to do your part. As I written about previously, instead of rushing out of the house, take the time for morning meditation. Gradually that peacefulness that you leave the house in the morning with, will extend over greater periods of time. I suggest with new clients who haven’t meditated before to begin with five minutes focusing on their breath.
It’s not a quick fix. It’s something that becomes part of you, like brushing your teeth.Getting rid of stress is a serious proposition. It’s takes commitment and you can do it. Make the commitment now. Make time for you.
JOURNEY ON
MARK
JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow,JD, is an Executive and Life Coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former successful trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Signup! http://www.inspirepossibility.com