Get it. Right? Or at least give it your all in attempts to.
A few years back, I went to a workshop at Esalen. The assumed goal for the weekend was to expect transformation. This was based on talking with all those that had been there before. No pressure.
I'll never forget one particular exercise. It had to do with wanting something and how you respond to that desire.
I was partnered with a smaller guy, about 5'5" - same height as myself. One person would hold the imaginary "want" in their hand and under no conditions were they allowed to give in to the other's desire. The other person could try anything, no holds barred, to get what they wanted.
The room was filled with about 50 people. The roar of the begging, seducing, and yelling was close to deafening. Some people had staring contests. Others gave in quickly citing their lack of caring about something that wasn't real anyhow. A few even tugged on the shirts and shoulders of the others.
I wrestled him to the ground. For a moment, he actually looked terrified. I almost felt bad, but I had to play the game to the hilt, and I wasn't really going to hurt him. I just wanted what I wanted what I wanted, and you know what, I was going to make him give it to me. After the shock wore off, and he decided he didn't want to be taken down by a lady, he fought back.
We rolled around on the pillows (a requirement for new age retreat centers), grunted, commands were flying as furiously as our arms "Give me" "NO!" "Give me" "NO!" Just as we were close to being out of breath, the one minute timer bell went off.
Exhausted, I gave it one last shot. As genuine as I could be I told him that I was really grateful that he was willing to play with me and that I loved him. I meant it too. I had a good time and I truly felt love towards him for having fun with me (not in a weird way, c'mon people).
His response? Tears, and an opening of his hand to give me my imaginary want.
My tips of the day to get what you want... 1) Play 2) Love