Has Your New Year's Resolution Failed? It Doesn't Have To!
Posted Jan 26 2010 10:25pm
Happy New Year Friends! I’m thrilled
about 2010 and anticipate great goals and successes in my own life. I remember skipping New Year’s resolutions for
many years, because they usually died a slow death as the year progressed. I believe
it’s because I focused too much on the doing and not the purpose for why I set my goals.
What does it mean to make a resolution? According to the Webster’s 1828 Dictionary, resolution is "a fixed purpose or
determination of mind; as a resolution to reform our lives; a resolution to
undertake an expedition." If diet or exercise is our resolution for the New
Year, we often go out and buy the latest diet book, cute work out clothes, a membership
to the fitness center, and we may even cut out a photo of our ideal body image to post it to our refrigerator for inspiration.
After the first of the year, fitness centers across country are filled with
ambitious resolution makers, but it isn't too long before these enthusiastic people fade into the sunset. According to one study, only 8% of all New
Year’s resolutions will be kept and most are broken before the first quarter.
Some won’t bother to make a resolution that they know they won’t keep, so why
Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail
1) Commitment: If there is a pattern of breaking commitments in your own
life, chances are you will not be able to keep a New Year’s Resolution.
Commitment is a promise and the ability to keep on keeping on, even when you
want to quit at anything!
2) Doubt: Allowing doubt to filtrate your mind once you set your goals kills our success. Fear
of failure causes doubt to enter the picture and questioning our ability is a great example of being double-minded. In The New Testament book of James tells us that a double-minded man is unstable in all his
ways. Being double-minded causes instability and will not accomplish much in
any area of life, let alone a New Year’s resolution.
3) Unrealistic Goals:
Set smaller and more reasonable goals; avoid unrealistic expectations. Dream big, but start small, and you
will see progress and be motivated to keep moving towards the end
4) Self-defeating prophesies: Negative thoughts and speaking negative
words over your situation will keep you from fulfilling your New Year’s
resolution. Before we even start, we sometimes get pessimistic and then wonder why we have
failed our resolution before January ends! As a man thinks in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7; NIV).
5) Accountability: We must be accountable to our commitment. Having an
accountability partner will keep you check; motivating one
another, encouraging one another, and keeping each other accountable until you
reach that goal together!
How Your New Year’s Resolution Won’t
1) Understand why you are making a New Year’s resolution: Having knowledge of
why you want to be debt free, exercise, or lose weight is key to fulfilling
your new resolution.
2) Have faith: "Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what
we do not see" (Hebrews 11:1; NIV).
Faith allows you to see your end results. Faith says that it doesn’t matter
what I see or how I look right now, I can do this. Another passage in Matthew
says, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can move mountains.
Some mountains in our life may be debt, illness, weight, etc. A mustard seed is
as tiny as a pin needle. That is how much faith it takes to start to move
mountains in our life. Imagine the power that we have and what we can
accomplish if we just had faith as small as a mustard seed!
Note: Remember, faith without works is dead. Yes have faith, but faith is
action! You can’t say, “I have faith that I can lose twenty pounds” and
continue to eat donuts, fast foods, and potato chips or I have faith that my
debt is canceled but continue to charge up the credit cards and spend frivolously,
and then say, “see, faith didn’t work.”
3) Be diligent: Diligence is when you are committed regardless of
circumstance around you that will try to keep you from accomplishing your new
year’s goals. The diligent hand will rule.
4) Think and speak optimistically: Old habits are hard to break. If we
continue to meditate on all the things that we can’t do and accomplish, before
long, we’ll be speaking it out of our mouth and seeing these negative things
come to pass. Proverbs tells us that life and death are in the power of the
tongue. Your tongue can either create for you life or death to your situation.
The tongue is a powerful weapon. Successful people understand this principle.
If you are going to succeed at your New Year’s resolution you have to determine
in your heart that you will only think and speak positive things.
5) Have Patience: "But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect
and complete, lacking nothing" (James 1:4; NIV).
Change will not happen overnight. It’s line upon line, here a little, there a
little. Anything that is worthwhile and will produce lifelong results takes
time, therefore be patient!
I believe if you apply these principles to your New Year’s resolution or any
other goals that you want to accomplish in this year and going forward, you
will not fail! You can do it!
“Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask
or think, according to the power that works in us” (Ephesians 3:20; NIV). The power is within you!