I have a rule in my life: do unto me as I would do unto others.
If you want to be happy, now rather than “someday”, there’s no two ways about it. You gotta treat yourself with the same level of care and respect that you treat those who matter in your life. Part of that is getting your needs met. And not just some of them, but all of them: physical, mental, spiritual, emotional. It’s called self-care and it’s essential to your overall well-being.
Aside from the common shared survival needs, each of us has a unique set of needs. In order to be “firing on all cylinders”, we need to nurture our body, minds and spirits. If we ignore these needs, we drain our energy tanks. We wouldn’t expect our cars to drive on an empty petrol tank, so why expect that from ourselves?
If you’re energy levels are depleted, and your enthusiasm for life is lacking even in areas that are generally good, try taking a look at each area of your life and making a list of all your personal needs. What are your needs at work? Your health needs? Your relationship needs? Download the Wheel of Life from my website (it’s free), and in each segment write out your needs. Then, circle the ones that are not being met. Ask yourself what is the impact on your life of allowing these needs to go unmet? What difference would it make if they were met? What will be the cost to you of not meeting them? How could you go about doing that?
If you’re committed to being happy now, and you’ve identified some unmet needs, you’ll need to make some decisions: