Today I was working on the forgiveness chapter of my soon to be published book, Dancing on the River.
When someone betrays us or disappoints us we react by being angry. We feel justified and self righteous in feeling this way. What we don’t realize is that at some point we have to let it go. We are not hurting the other person by being mad at them. In fact we might not have even seen them for years and yet we carry around our anger toward them. They might not even know we are angry.
So who are really hurting? Of course it’s ourself. Being angry puts us in a bad mood and it’s difficult to enjoy life. It’s a common misconception that if we forgive someone that we are letting them off the hook. That’s the farthest thing from the truth. It’s really a gift to ourselves. We let go of the past and embrace the present unburdened by the old hurts that we carry around with us.
By forgiving we are not condoning the act either. It’s in the past. It’s time to move on.
Take a moment to reflect upon this inquiry. Who is it in your life that you have not forgiven?
So you want to forgive, but how do you do it? It’s a choice that you make day by day, minute by minute. With each choice you let go more than you did before and go as far as you can.
JOURNEY ON
MARK
Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy and other experts in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Finding Joy and Meaning in the Midst of Change will be released in early 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016
Today I was working on the forgiveness chapter of my soon to be published book, Dancing on the River.
When someone betrays us or disappoints us we react by being angry. We feel justified and self righteous in feeling this way. What we don’t realize is that at some point we have to let it go. We are not hurting the other person by being mad at them. In fact we might not have even seen them for years and yet we carry around our anger toward them. They might not even know we are angry.
So who are really hurting? Of course it’s ourself. Being angry puts us in a bad mood and it’s difficult to enjoy life. It’s a common misconception that if we forgive someone that we are letting them off the hook. That’s the farthest thing from the truth. It’s really a gift to ourselves. We let go of the past and embrace the present unburdened by the old hurts that we carry around with us.
By forgiving we are not condoning the act either. It’s in the past. It’s time to move on.
Take a moment to reflect upon this inquiry. Who is it in your life that you have not forgiven?
So you want to forgive, but how do you do it? It’s a choice that you make day by day, minute by minute. With each choice you let go more than you did before and go as far as you can.
JOURNEY ON
MARK
Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy and other experts in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Finding Joy and Meaning in the Midst of Change will be released in early 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016