hi, i'm in my mid 40's and have had lupus 5 years (that was diagnosed) I have good and bad days and for over a month now i've felt like crap. i'm a grandma of 5. we are in the same state as the oldest. SHE'S ALMOST 4! she is staying with us and her dad for a bit, while her mom is going through a rough time. now i know why i stopped in my 20's having kids.