Why me, God ?: Most infertile couples ask themselves this question - " Why me, God ? Why did you pick on me to be infertile ? Why can't I have a baby ?" I'd like to share this valuable insight from a mom who lost a deeply loved child. "... focusing on questions like 'Why did this happen to me?' or 'What did I do to deserve this?' are pointless, because those questions will never have an answer, let alone a good one. A better question to focus on would be 'Now that this has happened, what are we going to do about it?' I pondered this question, and realize that for right now, the answer is we are going to grieve and mourn. "