Probably one of the most enjoyable books I've read on infertility is: A Few Good Eggs: Two Chicks Dish on Overcoming the Insanity of Infertility by Julie Vargo and Maureen Regan. This guide is actually targeted to infertile women residing in the US, and it is designed in the currently fashionable "chick-lit" style. It's amusingly put together; and it is certainly a breath of healthy air, if you are the type of individual who discovers a sense of humor can help you deal much better with infertility.
This book is loaded with lots of Top-10 lists, and here is their valuable listing of Top 10 Myths Regarding Infertility:
10 Mis(sed)-Conceptions Regarding Infertility
1. Infertility will not happen to me. 2. I cannot be infertile. I already have got a child! 3. I can easily conceive, therefore i do not have fertility problems. I basically have miscarriages. 4. I am just too young to possess fertility problems! 5. My physician shared with me that i don't need to visit any fertility expert unless I have 3 miscarriages. 6. I am fit. I work out on a regular basis. I cannot become infertile. 7. I am certainly not infertile. I am just not having good enough sex. 8. A person can easily wait a long period to have a child. 9. Males cannot be infertile. They produce sperm regularly. 10. Normal is a miracle.
Below are my remarks on this list:
1. Infertility will not happen to me.
This really is wishful thinking. The unfortunate truth is that the inability to conceive is a common problem which affects around one in ten couples. This means your likelihood of being infertile is around 10%. Sadly, there isn't any trustworthy technique of being able to check your own fertility (short of really conceiving a child!). There isn't any sign or indication or hint that will tip you off that you may be infertile. That is why numerous couples are "pre-infertile" - they get worried (often unnecessarily) as to whether they might have issues conceiving when they fail to get pregnant the very first month they attempt to have a baby!
2. I cannot be infertile. I have already got a child!
I'm sorry. As economic consultants tend to be so keen on reminding us, previous performance is no guarantee of future results! If you had a child previously, this only denotes that you were fertile that time - this can be no promise that a new problem might not have cropped up in the meanwhile which is causing you to become infertile now! This is known as secondary infertility - and is usually is much more annoying, since it is absolutely unexpected.
3. I can easily conceive, therefore i do not have fertility problems. I basically have miscarriages
An extended meaning of infertility includes woman who have repetitive pregnancy failures (miscarriages) - ladies who can't carry the pregnancy to term. This is because the outcome in both the cases is the same - not being able to have a child to adore and to hold.
4. I am just too young to possess fertility problems!
Regrettably, infertility doesn't care how old you are! While it's true that older females possess a significantly higher possibility of being infertile, as they have "older" eggs, young females may also be infertile for a lot of reasons - for example damaged tubes.
5. My gynec told me that I don't need to visit any fertility expert unless I have 3 miscarriages.
A miscarriage takes place in around 10 percent of all pregnancies. Since this is this kind of a common event, and frequently takes place for random genetic causes which usually do not recur, many doctors will not evaluate women who have experienced only 1 miscarriage. Not just is the assessment a waste of time and funds, it offers very little helpful information. This is the reason why the majority of physicians perform testing only when you have had at least two miscarriages. However, if you require further reassurance after experiencing a miscarriage, please ask your physician as to exactly what he or she can do in order to guide you.
6. I am fit. I work out on a regular basis. I cannot become infertile.
There is simply no connection in between your general wellness and your fertility. For instance, your fallopian tubes may be blocked without creating any kind of symptoms or indications. You have no method of knowing this, until you get them examined.
7. I am certainly not infertile. I am just not having enough sex.
This is a chance only when your lovemaking consistency is less than once a week. If it is much more compared to this, the probabilities of your having sex during your "fertile period" are usually quite high - you most likely will "hit the jackpot" at some period over the course of a year. Nevertheless, improving your love-making frequency is actually a simple (and enjoyable!) approach of enhancing your fertility. However, several women delude themselves and believe infrequent sex is the reason they are not having a baby, because they would rather deny the possibility of their having a medical problem for which they may need medical intervention.
8. Its fine to wait to have a child.
This is actually not a very good idea, for 2 reasons. First of all, if you have not conceived on your own in 1 year, the likelihood of your doing so on your own falls substantially. Secondly, fertility declines as an individual get older, and there is absolutely no point in losing time and decreasing your probabilities of success. Everything in life comes back again, except for time. It is a valuable, non-renewable resource - use it smartly!
9. Males cannot be infertile. They produce sperm regularly.
It is correct that males produce sperm all the time. However, around 10% of males tend to be infertile, simply because they generate poor quality sperm. Some possess no sperm in their semen at all - and there is no method of examining this without performing a semen analysis in the pathology laboratory.
10. Normal is a miracle.
Actually, this is true (just slipped it in to make sure you were paying attention!). When you think about how much precise synchronisation needs to be achieved for a good embryo to implant in the uterus to grow to be a baby, every birth is genuinely a remarkable feat - it's remarkable how the individual body achieves this with such ease for so many couples!