I re-read a humorous book titled “A Few Good Eggs: Two
Chicks Dish on Overcoming the Insanity of Infertility”, written by Julie Vargo
and Maureen Regan. As the title suggests, this is chick lit at its best for
infertile women ! It takes a very refreshing light-hearted look at infertility.
It has been written in a funny tone , and
if you love humor, you will find this book interesting , as it will help you to
tackle your infertility.
Here are a few of the
great tips this book offers .
1. Never think you are alone
The biggest problem many infertile women
face is dealing with the solitude caused by infertility. The world seems to be
full of babies - and you suddenly feel very abandoned , since you don’t have a
baby! People around you may be very unsympathetic and there may be no social
support. The trick is to keep yourself engaged constructively, so you don’t
start wallowing in self-pity.
2. Keep your cool
This can be a real challenge when people
are inadvertently unkind or deliberately cruel . You need to learn to manage your
temper and not lose your cool. This is a valuable life skill to learn – and there
are many tools to help you do this – ranging from your mother’s wise advise to
count to ten; to practicing vipassana.
3. Don’t let failure get you down
Remember that if an IVF treatment fails, this
is not the end of the world , and it doesn’t mean that you are domed to be childless
or that you are not capable of getting pregnant. There are several reasons why a single IVF
cycle may fail - and patience is an important virtue all humans need to
cultivate – especially if you are infertile .
4. Research and learn
There’s no need to become an IVF specialist, but
doing research about infertility will help you take control of your life !
5. Take time to have a hearty laugh
This will help you stop feeling sorry for
yourself. Humour is a very valuable antidote to many of life’s ills – and will
help you cope better with your infertility blues. Reading this book will help !
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