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Health knowledge made personal
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human soul can be damaged like human body. First you have to know that Depression is an emotion not like an illness it is very normal when bad things happened to feel bad
every creatures who have emotions can be exprience this emotional state,do you know animals can be depressed if we hurt or abuse them their emotions.like cats, dogs,frog,bird can be depressed
so dont be feel so guilt, worthlessness, hopelessness, because we are evoled with emotions but there is a diffrence between humans and animals. We(peoples) have large control over our emotion than animals. we can recover our self because we have great problem solving ablities than animals and animals cant understand or figure out about their emotions. you thinking i am a failure okey in that case this depressed animals are failure or they are stupid, NO emotions just like a mode of mental state
depression = withdrawal mode of soul, in severe cases self-destraction mode can be harm for body and brain
depression emotion feed backs up by stress hormone
first thing to do is understand depression than cutting the feed back mechanism of it cortisol stress hormon if you stressed, it start to secret from adrenal glands if you stop this mechasim with antidepressant esp high dose of effexor have some supress ablity on cortisol or another anitdepressant and walking 30 munites of every day i am not saying run or spor restfull walking after 2 week with anitdepressants your mood improve soo much bye breaking up the feed back mechanisms
1-take durgs esp antidepressant which your doctor was prescribed
2-walk every day about 20-30 munite most importent thing*****
3-dont watch bad things which you make you feel depressed
4-eat well esp B-vitamins
5-try to not to think about bad things about past
6-not sleep too much or too. less sleeping is very effect of our mood
7-take rests lots of time not too much sleep
if you break neagtive feed back of depression you can fastly much improved
good lock dont be hopeless i am dealing 8 years depression it is very storng emotion i know it is normal to feel when bad things happen
Part of life- Depression and Control ----------What to do now??????
From childhood I have been raised and brought up in ethnic community that belonged to same group. Irony of my childhood experiences is mixed of experiences both isolation and freindship. My family along with me and my brother had to experience a kind of isolation from other family members that were living around us. This was especially due to internal dispute of house ownership posession. My grand father legally possesed the land and built houses which was given on lease to other social members which belonged to same place and country to reside. My grandfather legally made bail handling the legal authority as heir the land reponsibility and authority to my father. Later those members which were allowed to stay on lease and rental basis, these groups started returning to their home town after their retirement and they disguised us by selling the leased house in their own ownership and posession. This group of people specially selled of the house to the local ethnic groups and communities and those periods were really bad periods. I remember mom saying that how one of the local ethnic man to whom the house was sold came up with the violent activites and giving threat to my father by killing him and forced him to pass the legal possession to his name without any incentives. After all everybody loves their life and not wealth since health and life was more important than wealth my father did it. Although we possesed the land ownership, nothing was in our control. I cannot forget all these incidences and these groups when even in difficult times seeked our help everytime and did not consider it as worth.
Coming back to my childhood, I and my brother used to remain in isolation and played together without mixing up with other childs staying around. These were really very sympathetic days for us where childhood is most important stage for growing and having better development.Later as we grew up we were able to understand the circumstances and a kind of understanding and adjustment was prevailed for sake of us by our parents, since we started mixing with the other childrens and started to mix up gradually. We started to maintain good relationship with other childrens as they and we were able to guide ourselves and take decision of having good relationship. As everybody grew and us too, after completing school education and continuing higher education we all are scattered around the world i.e we are staying in different places and different countries continuing own career and possessing good positions but we are not in contact as due to circumstances prevailing around us specially of their parents. I guess probably I will be meeting them someday who really viewed us with differentiation and negligence. This is all about childhood. I always had a motive to have good education and be at good position in my lifetime.
After my undergraduation , usually following our tradtion and culture got married. My spouse is very genious and good person whom I love the most. His parents that is 'my in laws are also good and supportive of me. Belonging to rural settings the family has similar kind of story prevailing around them about the some kind of isolation and incooperative behavior from the keen family members. This got ven more exagerrated after my marriage since I was total new to them and was questioned for my adjustment and capacities. I was brought and grown up outside my native country and the life style was new to me due to the rural settings. This was a second stage of my life steps of hardship, patience and isolation step where I had to control, adjust and maintain in order to survive and have stay away from my maternal parents who were residing where our house was---i.e in another country. The relations became more ambigious with more burdened responsibility to proof myself of my capabilites and resposibiltiies and our family to retain status for us. I never let it down as I was always and am a good struggler. But some time lacked confidence when I remembered the past incidents which really hurted and depressed me. But still could maintain myself.
After one year of marriage we had child--son marriage life was going well. My spouse had to go abroad for further study soon after my pregnancy. I, my parents and my in laws supported me in bringing up my son. When our son was more than 2 years I could join my spouse and we started living together. As I was eager to contnue my education I also joined the university and graduated and started working and our life is going with all ups and downs as this is a part of life.
Coming to most important part, nowadays, I am in a situation where I am dealing with anxiety problems and even the palpitations which happened automatically one night when I was alone with my son.....that day I still cannot forget it . My heart beat rate became higher and I was able to seek help after a long period of time from neighbors and security guards when my conditions got even worse since we have no our own ethnic and social cirlce around us plus additionally I cannot speak the local language where in we are staying currently. I was having some Low BP problems that day and even had bought medications for muscle pain. I was restless that night and was not able to sleep, something was disturbing me...that was related to my job matters....one reality that I knew about salary payment of colleagues. I was shocked after knowing the level of differences about the payments being done us specially me and also my husband. I was literally working underpaid with great roles and responsibilties working harder as it should be around else where. I was quite surprised with the level of differences and most importantly I was working and trying my best to adjust in an environment where the staffs are being considered for their labor and not for their competencies and their values. Poor HRM in the office where specially the middle range staffs are measured on basis of time presence and their internet browsing. I was being questioned by one of the colleagues many and severaltimes about my roles and responsibilites. This should have been be a quite shameful in that's person part who beared and should have played a important roles by working in the office itself but this person was working and residing out of the office place with spouse, although visiting some time the office. I am not against anybody but was against the capitalism structure that prevailed in the organisation and and at last I resigned. I am happy about resignation but at a same time looking for good oppurtunity ahead. But my health and one day incidence makes me uncomfortable, panic and fearful about losing my life. I am taking medicines and I know god will certainly show us the way go ahead. I know my husband and my well wishers are always there with me. I want to return to my homecountry and visit my family members whom I have to do a lot .
But how can I get rid and forget this fear and incidenceand also medications which may have side effects after long time ?? Seeking some suggestions that can help me. I take medicines for anxiety, palpitations and also some medications for sound sleepness in night time and most important I am afraid and nervous when my spouse is in tour for meetings,seminars and trainings.
Depression is not just a mood although mood is part of it. It is a mental illness. Think about it as a mood furthers misunderstanding and stigma.
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Major Depressive Disorder
Posted by Clueless C.
It is normal for everyone to have the blues now and then, but they usual pass in a day or so. There are several types of depressive disorders that i
I was in psychotherapy for 12 years and then things were pretty good until about 4 1/2 (November 2003) years ago when I figured out I was depressed. Well, I know the symptoms, but I did not pick them up. I returned to therapy and to taking medications which I had done previously for about 7 years. Even so, my sleep is all disturbed. I wake up about 1 to 3 am almost every morning and go back to sleep about 6 am and sleep during the day.
I actually cannot remember not having disruptive sleep ever except for maybe a one year period after I was married. Dr. Doobe indicated that it is common for a person under my circumstances to have difficulties with sleep disturbances. At least, since I am not working it helps because I can sleep whenever I am tired then it is usually a 2-3 hour nap and sometimes two during the day.
During this second time in therapy with Geoffrey, I began to have flashbacks and memories of neglect, physical, emotional and sadistic sexual abuse. I became incapacitated at home and would not leave the house except for work. Everything became overwhelming I couldn't shop (me not shop...you know it is serious), clean the house, cook, bake, etc. All I could manage to do was to work, which I kept up to date, and at the beginning no one noticed and went to therapy 5 times per week. Yes, I had long days. Work was my way of trying to prove that I was "okay," when I was anything but okay.
Maybe, it was my way of getting out of the housework because my dear, dear, sweet husband began to take over the household duties. This included paying the bills. I had never before had missed payments, not kept the ledger up to date and would balance to the penny. Well, let us say that he had to start from scratch. And, I was one to balance the checkbook to the penny. Oh, the answer is "no," I was not trying to get out of anything. I just want to feel normal again, but I'm not sure what that is...it seems like it has been so long.
All at the same time, he began sleeping in the extra bedroom to make me feel safer. He volunteered...imagine a man doing that. You know that God was at work here because nothing was wrong with him. Our church began to provide meals. It felt like I was living a double life...a part had it all together and the other was falling apart and a mess. I went to work everyday feeling overwhelmed and panicked. Medications helped some, but not enough.
About 1 1/2 years ago, working and going to therapy caught up with me and I was no longer able to work. It was continue to work and be hospitalized or stop working and hopefully I won't need hospitalization. The situation at work had changed, I was having more difficulties concentrating and with fragmenting and a new supervisor "re-traumatized" me due to her supervisory skills. Most of those under her left for other jobs. The unfortunate thing is that I loved my job and envisioned being there a long time. But, I figure that God knows what He is doing. Also, I would not have been able to do the tougher emotional work while being employed. This has been a good thing.
Now, I am a little better. But, I still have to gage if I can tolerate going out and handling the crowd without going away or becoming overwhelmed. Then, afterward and the next day I sleep and sleep and sleep. Also, there are days when I just don't want to get out of bed and if I do and don't have to go anywhere I don't brush my teeth, shower or get out of my pajamas. These are some specific examples of major depression versus dysthymia which is painful as well. Geoffrey and I figure that I've been depressed my whole life with periods of major depressive episodes.
Depressive disorders are mental illness that are treatable and manageable, but need to be taken care of just as someone with heart disease would. No one would dare say or think any of the above about someone who has had a heart attack. But, somehow, everyone treats mental illness differently. Sometimes, it feels like some people are afraid they are going to catch it.
Major Depression is a serious medical illness affecting 18 million American adults, men and women of all ages, races and economic levels. Unlike normal emotional experiences of sadness, loss, or passing mood states, major depression is persistent and can significantly interfere with an person's thoughts, behavior, mood, activity and physical health. It is the leading cause of disability in the United States and usually strikes people between the ages of 25 and 44.
Twice as many women as men are diagnosed with Major Depression. It is not fully understood
Symptoms:
Psychological, biological, and environmental factors may all contribute to the development of a depressive episode. Whatever the specific cause of depression, scientific research has firmly established that it is a biological, medical illness. Neurotransmitters are thought to be involved which is what medications address. There is also some evidence that there is a genetic predisposition. Also, discuss with your doctor your medical history as some illness may influence depression especially hypothyroidism.
Reportedly, between 80-90% of those treated for Major Depression return to their usual daily activities and feelings. I did so successfully for about five years, but this episode is much worse and I don't feel as hopeful. But, all indications are that I will recover to some degree although it is taking much longer than I want it to partly because it is complicated by post-traumatic stress disorder (another post).
Possible complications of depression include suicide (15% of people with major depressive disorder die by suicide), increased risk of alcohol and drug related problems, increased risk of tobacco dependence and increased risk of problems with physical health and premature death due to medical illness.
Call 911, a suicide hotline or get safely to an emergency room if you have thoughts of suicide, a suicidal plan or thoughts of harming yourself or others. If a loved one expresses such thoughts, it is okay to let them talk about it. By not talking about it, it becomes a "taboo" subject, so they may not go to you if they are at risk. If they talk about it, you can be sure that they have been thinking about it.
Your doctor needs to be called right away if you hear voices, see things, smell things, feel things that are not there (psychosis which can accompany MDD; have frequent crying spells, if your work, school or family life is disrupted for two or more weeks; and if you or someone else thinks that you should cut back or stop drugs or alcohol. Side effects of some medication includes depression, but DO NOT stop taking it without talking to your doctor.
Depression effects men and women in different ways which is a fairly new area of study. They process medications differently. Neurochemicals such serotonin (used by the brain to stabilize mood) is processed differently between men and women. Suicide attempts are more common in women, but men are more likely to be successful. Men are more likely to be diagnosed with alcohol problems, but women are at higher risk following an episode of depression.
Women's changing hormones provide additional challenges. Under age 13, approximately equal numbers of girls and boys experience depression. Once they reach age 13 girls are more likely to become depressed. I know that right before and during my menstrual cycle that my symptoms are more difficult. While women may cry, become withdrawn, and gain or lose weight, men may abuse alcohol or drugs, or eat excessively, and/or become violent to themselves or others. Men keep things hidden while women are more open about their feelings. Additionally, older adults, children and adolescents will experience and express depression in atypical ways.
Preventative measures include, stress management; avoiding drugs, alcohol and caffeine; exercise regularly; and maintaining good sleeping habits. If you are socially isolated try volunteering or get involved in some social group. Medications and psychiatric treatment my prevent recurrences; however, some are not preventable.
Some helpful tips if you have a depressive disorder. You are not a failure if you cannot do these. Participate in mild activity or exercise. At the beginning, I was able to exercise, but now I do not have the energy or motivation. Participate in things that you once enjoyed. I have continued to go to music concerts, at least, one time per year. I am also beginning to read my cookbooks again and look on the Internet.
Set realistic goals for yourself. Break a large task into smaller tasks, so you don't feel so overwhelmed. Try to spend time with a friend or relative and confide in them. Try not to isolate yourself and let others help you. This is difficult for me, but I have let my therapist, a couple of friend and my husband in more and more. The biggest step was starting this blog. Postpone making major life decisions.
Remember, it is normal for appetite and sleep to be disrupted. Be gentle with yourself. Don't expect to snap out of it or for you to feel better "sooner." I get into trouble with this all the time because I always want to be further than I am instead of accepting the progress that I have made.
If you know of someone who has a major depressive disorder. The most important thing you can do is to take care of yourself first before attending to the person who is depressed. Remember what they say on an airplane, put your breathing mask on first, then help others. After that the best thing you can do is to encourage them to seek a diagnosis and treatment. It is okay to shop around for a therapist and psychiatrist. It is important to have a good match because they need to be able to tell them the truth about how they feel which means they need to be as comfortable as possible.
Please, know that sharing of this sort will cause an increase of some symptoms and that you will never be completely comfortable with a health care professional. This is normal.
Never ignore comments about suicide, and report them to your friend's or relative's therapist or doctor. They maybe angry for awhile, but it is necessary. You don't want to end up at their funeral with regrets. Invite them out even if they decline, but don't push too soon or it will feel demanding or overwhelming and increase feelings of worthlessness and failure. Remind yourself and them that with time and treatment, that the depression will get better.
I hope this helps you or someone you love to have a better understanding and compassion for yourself and others with depression. I know it helped me to have more compassion for myself.
Most of the information in this post was compiled from www.nami.org, www.nlm.nih.gov, and www.healthyplace.com. You can also go to their websites for additional information and other resources. Remember there is treatment available and stick to it don't give up!!
(Disclaimer: Although I have worked with mentally ill persons for twenty years, I do not have a Master's Degree or a license. This is not meant to be a substitute for mental health care or treatment. Please obtain professional assistance from the above resources, if needed. And call 911 if you or someone is in immediate danger.)