The general perception seems to be that IVF is an extremely stressful
treatment . Being infertile is stressful , so it seems logical to jump
to the conclusion that going through infertility treatment must be much
more so – after all, so much rides on the outcome of the IVF treatment
However, an IVF treatment cycle can actually be a very positive
experience . If patients follow certain guidelines, they are likely to
have happy memories of the IVF treatment , irrespective of what the
outcome is ! The trick is to have realistic expectations from the
Remember that IVF treatment gives infertile patients their best shot at
getting pregnant , so that if you do an IVF cycle, you have peace of
mind that you did your best so that you have no regrets later on in your
life. Also, IVF treatment is elective treatment , which you take by
choice - no one is forcing you to do this. Doing IVF allows you to
exercise your own free will and decide – Yes, this is what I want to do ,
because it maximize my chances of having a baby. This can be an
empowering experience , and you can look forward to it , because you're
trying to control what is happening to you, rather than just being a
passive victim of either a low sperm count or blocked tubes. In one
sense , you're trying to write your own destiny , with the help of
medical technology – what more can a human being do ?
Equally importantly , there is no medical risk involved in the IVF
treatment, when it’s done properly. Unfortunately, there are still lots
of myths and misconceptions that the hormone injections used in IVF make
you fat; or increase the risk of breast cancer . You should do your
homework , rather than listen to these old wife’s tales. The IVF
hormonal injections are natural hormones, which allow us to rescue the
eggs which would have died anyway. They get excreted in the urine
promptly, and do not have any long term consequences. Being armed with
information therapy can provide a lot of positive energy when you're
doing your treatment.
The biggest problem is that IVF patients often have not been counseled
properly , as a result of which they often have very unrealistic
expectations of success rates . Patients need to understand that the
outcome of an IVF cycle is always uncertain , simply because human
reproduction is an inefficient. enterprise – both in the bedroom, for
fertile couples, and in the clinic, for infertile couples. No matter how
good your doctor , once the embryo has been transferred into the
uterus, we cannot control whether the embryo will implant or not. While
it can be hard to come to terms with this uncertainty , once you factor
this in , you realize that all that you ( and your doctor) can do during
the IVF treatment is your best – and the rest is out of your hands.
This is exactly what the Gita advises – do your duty , without expecting
any reward in return. This kind of philosophical approach towards IVF
treatment will help to make the cycle itself much easier to cope with ,
so that it’s easier to cope with the IVF emotional roller coaster ride.
One major advantage of IVF treatment is it helps you get in touch with
other infertile couples . A major problem with being infertile is that
you often feel isolated and ostracized . It seems that everyone else -
office workers , friends, colleagues and relatives - is having babies.
However, when you go to an IVF clinic , you get a chance to connect with
lots of other infertile couples . It gives you a chance to network with
them, and this provides invaluable emotional support . You realize that
you are not crazy – and that there are many others who are in exactly
the same boat you are in – you are not a freak.
Going through an IVF cycle can also create bonding between the husband
and wife . It’s when he sees his wife taking the IVF shots daily, that
some husbands finally understand the depth of the emotional desire and
the strength of the biological craving which a woman has , when she
wants to have a baby. When he sees that his wife is willing to go
through so much trouble in order to have a baby , he becomes much more
empathetic , and has a much better understanding of her feelings –
something which helps to make the marriage even stronger.
You decide to do IVF treatment because you choose to do so of you own free will, for purely selfish reasons;
You have realistic expectations ; and
have been counseled properly ,
You will find that an IVF treatment can actually be a very positive experience , rather than being a negative stressful one.
It’s up to you ! If you take an active role , so that you are in control
of your life, rather than thinking of yourself as a passive victim ,
you are likely to be happy with your IVF treatment – and getting
pregnant is then just the icing on the cake !