All great religions convey the same message - the best way to grow is by helping others. This is very true if you have a medical problem, too; and many patients find that the best way of helping themselves is by helping others. There are any ways of supporting other patients ! Join a support group - or start one ! Participating in bulletin boards on the net and providing insights based on your personal experience can be invaluable to others who have been newly diagnosed and are lost. Make constructive use of your suffering - you will become a much better human being as a result of this.