Great Figures in Transplant / Non-Transplant History > Pauline Daley
Posted Oct 13 2009 10:04pm
Today it is appropriate to honour a truly great figure in transplant history - my wife Pauline.
An important way of getting through a major obstacle in life is to get your loved ones onside - partner, family, friends, workmates. Pauline is an outstanding example of this, going way beyond the call of duty.
(And she had no prior warning of this trribute, by the way.)
Recently I completed my formal re-training by graduating from the University of Wollongong with a TESOL (Teaching English to Speakers of Other Languages) teaching qualification.
This is the formal end of a pathway I started on in 2003 when I first enrolled in the University's M.Ed. program in adult education & training.
But its a pathway that I would have found impossible to reach without the support and love of my wife Pauline.
And indeed, this support goes back further to the period 1998 to 2002, with the days of home haemo-dialysis.
I was fortunate to be able to do this at home. But again, this would have been plainly impossible without Pauline's support.
In those years, Pauline deliberately slowed her career right down simply so she could be a support.
Most dialysis nights, I got home from work to find that she had mostly or entirely completed the set-up. And then she would strip the machine if I had to race to work next morning.
And this from a lady who was previously barely able to tolerate the sight of a paper cut.
Then there were the interminable hours sitting about clinics when we were on holidays.
And the big day when the transplant call came out of the blue. A simple country drive for a picnic suddenly became a dash to Sydney and months of disruption.
All through this, Pauline came up smiling.
And she could have avoided all this whilst we were engaged back in the early 1990s.
During this time, the magnitude of my kidney problems became apparent. I did what I believed was the honourable thing and indicated to Pauline that I would entirely understand if she wanted to withdraw from our engagement.
Her response? To tell me that I was talking nonsense, and that we need to decide on invitations by the end of the week.
From the bottom of my heart - thank you, Pauline. I love you very deeply, and your role as a Great Figure in Transplant / Non-Transplant History is highly deserved.