Here's a thoughtful email I received recently from an intelligent patient, who was going to the "No 1 IVF clinic " in her city. She wrote - "Though they have an excellent reputation, they did not like to answer questions, they didn't have the time, and they liked to practice "their way", not forming a collaboration with the patient. I ask a lot of questions, I like to understand my body, and the more knowledge I have, the more receptive I am." Rather than continue with the clinic, she chose to change doctors, till she found somneone who was more in tune with her needs. Full marks to her - now she has peace of mind she is doing her best. It does require work and courage to change doctors, but to be fair to yourself you need to do so, rather than go passively with the flow because you are too lazy and then kick yourself later on !