Some self discovery and unanswered questions of late has lead me to this possible conclusion.
If I am not writing as much here are a few reasons.
Financial (my ex boarder used up all my broadband and I was paying per megabite he went over, thanks dude for the $700.00 phone/internet bill and $1000,00+ power bill).
Spiritual/psychological, I have had alot of serious issues here with some very sick and or dying people I know.
Family issues (eldest child) and fall out related to it, my own health issues and general blah blah.
However I am feeling surprisingly good. Not down, not stressed out, very focused and rejuvenating rather than letting it get to me. I have achieved this by staying grounded, relaxing alot (thanks T.V) not taking on board issues that aren't mine and wonderful friends who have helped in a massive way (you know who you are). Also asking for help spiritually.
A few years ago I was told by a random psychic I didn't know "you give away far to much, you don't know how to say no". She was right and it has taken many years to realise I only have myself to look after myself, if I burn out, then my kids would suffer. Maybe that's why I was able to move away from people who hurt me, be it family or friend, and no longer feel the terrible guilt of years past.
The hardest person I had to say no to was my young friend who died. Weeks before she died, I told her I would always be there for her, I loved her, but she could no longer stay over for days on end, with intentions of suicide on her mind. I had to protect my children and myself. I no longer feel guilty.
I had to break away from my mother, to be able to heal and move forward without her issues always trying to block my personal growth and crush me as a person.
I have had to kick my eldest child from the home, to protect the family from abusive behaviour.
Finally I have had to stay single and say no to men who had abusive traits.They also knew I was a softie inside and would do anything to help, so they played the victim card, all the time being abusive.
My biggest flaw was being a rescuer, always putting others before myself.
I realised after I came home from my major bladder surgery, I was on my hands and knees trying to vacum up a months worth dirt from the floor, while my mother sat on the couch watching me cry, demanding a cup of tea, that we had no relationship. Just one of her issues.
I have learned to stay away from what I call emotional vampires, they suck you dry, rip you off then crap on you.
I don't get people who crap on people who are kind to them, however I digress.
When I have loved I have always loved deeply, be it my husband, children or friend/family. I have learned now who to give my all to.
I am an Empath and not ashamed and afraid to say it.
I believe I have finally learned through pure luck and shitty life experience how to finally rope it in. Be more balanced and choosy on who I help, or listen to, or don't.
I used to tolerate abuse, I don't any more.
I'm always there for those I care about, or who need genuine help, I just no longer take it on board and internalise it, that way I'm stronger emotionally/psychologically and spiritually.
I may not have the finances to help someone, be able to do a heck of alot on a physical level, but I will always be an ear.
My blog has been multi funcional for me, to get rid of the garbage, to educate others, to be a support.
I'm hoping in the future I will have more positive posts, however right now this is my reality.
This link to a good website I found explains some parts of myself and maybe yours.
The self quizz asks
- Can you feel what other people are feeling, even if they're not in your physical presence? Yes
- Do you spontaneously know what people need to hear/do to feel better?
- Yes
- Do people find it easy to confide in you?
- Yes
These are common Empath side effects if you cannot control (yet!) your Empath skills:
The other one that hasn't quite answered my question, is knowing when people are terminal and or going to die, or have passed. That is quite intense.
There is also an element of feeling other peoples ailments, even from afar or manifesting them, uummm I wonder???
I do want to say thank you to the wonderful blogger friends I have made on here, you are all unique in your own way, Odette, Amy, Tracey, Sid, Joey the list goes on....
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If I am not writing as much here are a few reasons.
Financial (my ex boarder used up all my broadband and I was paying per megabite he went over, thanks dude for the $700.00 phone/internet bill and $1000,00+ power bill).
Spiritual/psychological, I have had alot of serious issues here with some very sick and or dying people I know.
Family issues (eldest child) and fall out related to it, my own health issues and general blah blah.
However I am feeling surprisingly good. Not down, not stressed out, very focused and rejuvenating rather than letting it get to me. I have achieved this by staying grounded, relaxing alot (thanks T.V) not taking on board issues that aren't mine and wonderful friends who have helped in a massive way (you know who you are). Also asking for help spiritually.
A few years ago I was told by a random psychic I didn't know "you give away far to much, you don't know how to say no". She was right and it has taken many years to realise I only have myself to look after myself, if I burn out, then my kids would suffer. Maybe that's why I was able to move away from people who hurt me, be it family or friend, and no longer feel the terrible guilt of years past.
The hardest person I had to say no to was my young friend who died. Weeks before she died, I told her I would always be there for her, I loved her, but she could no longer stay over for days on end, with intentions of suicide on her mind. I had to protect my children and myself. I no longer feel guilty.
I had to break away from my mother, to be able to heal and move forward without her issues always trying to block my personal growth and crush me as a person.
I have had to kick my eldest child from the home, to protect the family from abusive behaviour.
Finally I have had to stay single and say no to men who had abusive traits.They also knew I was a softie inside and would do anything to help, so they played the victim card, all the time being abusive.
My biggest flaw was being a rescuer, always putting others before myself.
I realised after I came home from my major bladder surgery, I was on my hands and knees trying to vacum up a months worth dirt from the floor, while my mother sat on the couch watching me cry, demanding a cup of tea, that we had no relationship. Just one of her issues.
I have learned to stay away from what I call emotional vampires, they suck you dry, rip you off then crap on you.
I don't get people who crap on people who are kind to them, however I digress.
When I have loved I have always loved deeply, be it my husband, children or friend/family. I have learned now who to give my all to.
I am an Empath and not ashamed and afraid to say it.
I believe I have finally learned through pure luck and shitty life experience how to finally rope it in. Be more balanced and choosy on who I help, or listen to, or don't.
I used to tolerate abuse, I don't any more.
I'm always there for those I care about, or who need genuine help, I just no longer take it on board and internalise it, that way I'm stronger emotionally/psychologically and spiritually.
I may not have the finances to help someone, be able to do a heck of alot on a physical level, but I will always be an ear.
My blog has been multi funcional for me, to get rid of the garbage, to educate others, to be a support.
I'm hoping in the future I will have more positive posts, however right now this is my reality.
This link to a good website I found explains some parts of myself and maybe yours.
The self quizz asks
- Can you feel what other people are feeling, even if they're not in your physical presence? Yes
- Do you spontaneously know what people need to hear/do to feel better?
- Yes
- Do people find it easy to confide in you?
- Yes
These are common Empath side effects if you cannot control (yet!) your Empath skills:- Feeling emotionally or physically overwhelmed in crowds.
- Not really, hate surprise parties or anything that is centred around me though(feel more embarrassed).
- Feeling the weight of the world on your shoulders.
- Used to.
- Having random mood swing (angry, sad, scared, etc) that have nothing to do with your life.
- Have done in the past(thought P.M.T was to blame).
- Have a hard time falling asleep before midnight or procrastinate going to bed.
- Yes always.
- Have physical symptoms that related to hearing (ringing, popping, itching in the ear canal)
- Yes, hense hate people putting thermometers in my ears.
The other one that hasn't quite answered my question, is knowing when people are terminal and or going to die, or have passed. That is quite intense.There is also an element of feeling other peoples ailments, even from afar or manifesting them, uummm I wonder???
I do want to say thank you to the wonderful blogger friends I have made on here, you are all unique in your own way, Odette, Amy, Tracey, Sid, Joey the list goes on....
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