Good afternoon! How are you all doing? Things are well over here…the Hubby has a late night at work (possibly until 8PM), Noah is in school until 5PM (for an afterschool activity), and its just me & Caleb until its time to pick Noah up. Right now, Caleb’s napping (after taking almost an hour to go to sleep!) so I’m soaking up the quiet time & drinking a nice cup of coffee flavored with pumpkin spice creamer…yes, things are going very well right now.
This morning after Noah got on the bus, I dropped Caleb off early at school, and parked at the front door so I wouldn’t get lectured again…side note: there was a nice sign reminding me everyone what times the doors to the school would be locked and unlocked and wouldn’t you know, they were still locked when they were supposed to be opened. But I’m over it now.
Anyway, after early drop-off, I made my way to the gym to take a Bodycombat class with my fave ever LesMills instructor and was happy that a friend got to take it with me. We had a blast kicking and punching and sweating…I swear, working out is so much more fun for me than going out…I know, I am in the minority.
I finished up my workout with my machine of the week, the stairmill and burned a total of 613 calories.
So, its no secret that I am a Navy wife…
I grew up in the Hampton Roads area, which is home to the largest Navy base in the WORLD and I also grew up a Navy brat. I always told myself I would never marry a sailor. I had never even dated a sailor. When I met Mike (the Hubby), I thought I’d hit the jackpot: a boy NOT from my hometown, going to college, and NOT in the Navy. Oh, and he had a job & a car.
We dated through college, and the Hubby was working on his Exercise Science degree. In the middle of his last semester of college, he decided to go into the Navy. He finished his degree and earned a spot at the Navy’s Officer Candidate School (or OCS), was shipped away, and the rest is history.
I ended up marrying him despite the fact that he was a sailor. Lucky him me.
I’ve only been a Navy wife for 9 years, but in those 9 years, I think the Navy has taught me a lot.
For one, I have learned to be very self-sufficient. There are times when my husband can’t be around. There have been times when my family hasn’t been around. There have been times when its happened at the SAME time. You know who takes care of the house and kids? Me. (GASP) I know, I know, its hard to believe: a mother taking care of her own kids without anyone’s help! Really, I don’t think its that amazing…you do what you gotta do.
I have learned that moving isn’t so bad. I grew up in the same place most of my life. From the time I was 8 years old, I had lived in Virginia Beach, VA. I left when I was 29. I thought Virginia Beach was it for me. Now I know there are so many other places I want to see…and that I might not necessarily want to raise my kids in Virginia Beach.
I have learned that people need people. Being in the same place for 21 years meant that I didn’t have to go out and make new friends. I had my husband and my family, and the same friends I’d had for 20+ years. Moving away, I had to learn to make friends all on my own, and it was even harder because I didn’t have a job that I went to everyday (you know, being a stay at home mom, and all). My first experience being away (living in Florida) was miserable in part because I didn’t meet other people. I thought my husband and kids were all I needed. I. Was. Wrong. Humans are social creatures. We need the companionship of others, and friendships are healthy.
I have learned to make a home wherever the Navy sends us. I’m not going to like every single place we live, but why hate it for the entire time we’re there? I’ve made a promise to myself to find the good wherever we go and to think positively. Its such a waste hating a place for 3+ years.
I have learned many other things being married to the Navy (like how its impossible to plan a vacation in advance, or how there will be days, even weeks without communication with your husband, or how to give birth to your first child while your husband’s on deployment, etc etc) but these are the positive life lessons the Navy has taught me. Overall, its been a fun 9 years…good thing I’m enjoying it because the powers that be tell us that Mike’s got a LONG time left in the Navy…not sure how I feel about that yet.