Pain is not in your head, it is in your body but your mind is the one that feels the pain. Therefore, body pain can be controlled by mind training. Training the mind takes time. Learning relaxation skills is one of the most effective tools for pain control. Muscle tension is generally a big factor in pain. Relaxation techniques help in relaxing muscles. Workshops, training courses, and self-help tapes are available on relaxation techniques. Spend less and less time on the "big three friends of pain," Fear, Anger, and Sadness. These three impair pain tolerance and increase the suffering from pain. Emotions have a very direct impact on the feeling of pain. Holding the positive emotions for a longer period would reduce the feeling of pain. I know it is easier said than done and the person in pain is not in the best mood to hear something like that. Take it as a challenge. You must be a believer in the mind-body connection of chronic pain. All chronic pain is mental and emotional pain. There is nothing that is simply physical chronic pain. If a doctor is treating your chronic pain strictly within the physical framework, you need another doctor. Pain makes one anxious. Muscles and breathing respond to anxiety resulting in further muscular rigidity and pain. Learn to do physical and mental relaxation from tapes or from a professional. Relaxation will also help with the three "horsemen" of pain: depression, anger, and anxiety.