We all know people who appear to sail through life, happily moving from one success to the next. And yet there are others who fail at just about anything they have a go at – but can always tell you why it wasn’t their fault. Our civilisation is made up of victors and victims. The difference between the two can very often be reduced to one key thing, and that’s attitude.
It’s essential when working on a weight loss program to adopt the habits of the victor to accomplish the right outcome. Feebly attempting a weight-loss plan without taking responsibility for the outcome will put you in the ‘victim’ camp. And yet for a victor it’s all in the bag from the beginning.
Let’s envision we’re on court for a tennis finale. We listen to the players before the start – One player says the outcome is now in the lap of the gods, whereas his opponent states “I am destined to be the champion!” Who’s most likely to succeed?
‘Oar’ can be used to describe a victor who paddles his way to the winning post. O is for ownership, A is for accountability and R is for responsibility. We can define the victim by the word BED (Blame, Excuses and Denial) – a person who stays in bed and gives up.
The victor ‘owns’ his own tasks, and doesn’t hope for someone else to take the lead. He’s liable for his actions, and so he takes account of them (seeing things through by dealing with problems not making problems). He’s responsible for the results of his actions, and so doesn’t take excuses from himself.
The victim can always come up with a reason for not accomplishing something, and it’s hardly ever to do with him. Mistakes or short-comings are always transferred on to a third party. Justifications are always made for why he couldn’t perform well – but inevitably he’s the only one who’s convinced! The pattern of blaming others and making excuses leads to an existence of absolute denial. The victim is then sure beyond doubt that he can do nothing about his lot.
A person about to start a new slimming program should stack the odds of success in their favour by giving themselves a mental check-over. Anyone who’s a fully paid up member of the victim society will have to address their issues before they start, to truly embrace the concept of losing weight.
Continual positive repetition will change a victim’s attitude to that of a victor. Pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself – if you sound like a victim, then stop dead! Instead, mentally verbalise why you can be successful. Nobody else is superior to you – some have just conquered their victimisation thinking and achieved their success.
“There is no such thing as a hero, only those who rise to the occasion”. Those were the words of Winston Churchill, and they’re just as valid today. We have to have the mind-set of a winner in order to achieve the weight we want ourselves to be.
(C) Scott Edwards. Browse WeightLossDietWar.com for the best diet tips on losing weight diet and body fat loss .
We all know people who appear to sail through life, happily moving from one success to the next. And yet there are others who fail at just about anything they have a go at – but can always tell you why it wasn’t their fault. Our civilisation is made up of victors and victims. The difference between the two can very often be reduced to one key thing, and that’s attitude.
It’s essential when working on a weight loss program to adopt the habits of the victor to accomplish the right outcome. Feebly attempting a weight-loss plan without taking responsibility for the outcome will put you in the ‘victim’ camp. And yet for a victor it’s all in the bag from the beginning.
Let’s envision we’re on court for a tennis finale. We listen to the players before the start – One player says the outcome is now in the lap of the gods, whereas his opponent states “I am destined to be the champion!” Who’s most likely to succeed?
‘Oar’ can be used to describe a victor who paddles his way to the winning post. O is for ownership, A is for accountability and R is for responsibility. We can define the victim by the word BED (Blame, Excuses and Denial) – a person who stays in bed and gives up.
The victor ‘owns’ his own tasks, and doesn’t hope for someone else to take the lead. He’s liable for his actions, and so he takes account of them (seeing things through by dealing with problems not making problems). He’s responsible for the results of his actions, and so doesn’t take excuses from himself.
The victim can always come up with a reason for not accomplishing something, and it’s hardly ever to do with him. Mistakes or short-comings are always transferred on to a third party. Justifications are always made for why he couldn’t perform well – but inevitably he’s the only one who’s convinced! The pattern of blaming others and making excuses leads to an existence of absolute denial. The victim is then sure beyond doubt that he can do nothing about his lot.
A person about to start a new slimming program should stack the odds of success in their favour by giving themselves a mental check-over. Anyone who’s a fully paid up member of the victim society will have to address their issues before they start, to truly embrace the concept of losing weight.
Continual positive repetition will change a victim’s attitude to that of a victor. Pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself – if you sound like a victim, then stop dead! Instead, mentally verbalise why you can be successful. Nobody else is superior to you – some have just conquered their victimisation thinking and achieved their success.
“There is no such thing as a hero, only those who rise to the occasion”. Those were the words of Winston Churchill, and they’re just as valid today. We have to have the mind-set of a winner in order to achieve the weight we want ourselves to be.
(C) Scott Edwards. Browse WeightLossDietWar.com for the best diet tips on losing weight diet and body fat loss .