Ever had a bad day? What if I told you that you didn’t have to have any more of them? Ever. Like everything else in your life - it’s your choice. Attitude is a choice.
We blame others for most bad things that happen in our lives. We just don’t want to take personal responsibility for anything. We blame our parents for this and that. We blame our school system for not teaching us better. We blame other drivers for the traffic. We blame everyone but ourselves.
Here’s the secret:Blaming others is simply our way of excusing ourselves. We don’t want to own up to our part of our bad mood, or our bad day, so we blame others, and somehow - feel better about it. But trust me - no one wants to hear you complaining about others - not even all of the trillions of little cells that comprise your body. Anger, resentment, and negativity get deep into the cells. How are you supposed to have a good day if you’ve angered that many living things!
Here’s the solution: Be kind. See the good in every situation. Anytime you feel angry, ask yourself why you’re having such a strong reaction to the situation. Every situation is a chance for you to learn and grow. If you’re stuck in traffic, turn off the radio and belt out your favourite song. Not the only one in the car? Learn something new about the person beside you. This is your chance to really listen and get to know them. How often do you really talk to your husband, your wife, or your kids? Turn off the radio, and really talk. Start with: “You know, I’ve never told you this, but I’ve always dreamed of…” Or, alternatively: “Thank you for…” Have a meaningful conversation - you’ll both come out of it with a smile.
Be kind to the barista who makes your coffee. If you have a particularly good latte one day, take the time to share your gratitude with those who made it. Instead of barrelling down the sidewalk on the way to work in the morning, slow down your pace, take in some deep breaths, and choose 5 things in the moment for which to give thanks.
Be kind to the person who butts in line, or cuts you off, or is rude to you “because they’re an “a******”. They are people, just like you, and you don’t know what’s going on in their lives. If you are kind and show people you truly care, you never know how they’ll respond - or how grateful they’ll be that you took a moment out of your schedule to show them you care. Step out of your “story” and take the time to simply be in the moment. Smile. Share a hug with someone who needs it. Hint: everyone needs a hug. Call your parents and tell them you love them. Thank them for all they gave you, and ask how they’re doing.
Don’t try to be kind to people. Feel it. Live it. Never try to do anything. Simply do. When you wake up in the morning, be the kindest person you know - and just see how your life can change in an instant.
We blame others for most bad things that happen in our lives. We just don’t want to take personal responsibility for anything. We blame our parents for this and that. We blame our school system for not teaching us better. We blame other drivers for the traffic. We blame everyone but ourselves.
Here’s the solution: Be kind. See the good in every situation. Anytime you feel angry, ask yourself why you’re having such a strong reaction to the situation. Every situation is a chance for you to learn and grow. If you’re stuck in traffic, turn off the radio and belt out your favourite song. Not the only one in the car? Learn something new about the person beside you. This is your chance to really listen and get to know them. How often do you really talk to your husband, your wife, or your kids? Turn off the radio, and really talk. Start with: “You know, I’ve never told you this, but I’ve always dreamed of…” Or, alternatively: “Thank you for…” Have a meaningful conversation - you’ll both come out of it with a smile.
Be kind to the barista who makes your coffee. If you have a particularly good latte one day, take the time to share your gratitude with those who made it. Instead of barrelling down the sidewalk on the way to work in the morning, slow down your pace, take in some deep breaths, and choose 5 things in the moment for which to give thanks.
Don’t try to be kind to people. Feel it. Live it. Never try to do anything. Simply do. When you wake up in the morning, be the kindest person you know - and just see how your life can change in an instant.