You have permission to be in close relationship with yourself and others.
Posted Dec 25 2012 8:31am
As you give yourself permission to be in close
relationships with people you care about in whatever way that works for each
of you, you enable yourself to move closer to your ultimate goal of replacing
your dependence on the eating disorder with the interdependence of real human
relationships! -Quote from Beating Ana
Whether you believe it or not at the
moment, you already have permission to say “Adios, Ed” and choose new friends.
You also have permission to befriend
yourself if you want to do so.
You don’t need Ed’s permission to do
these things. Unless you think you do – and then you do.
One of the most difficult steps to take
in recovery is to admit to yourself that you have been following the guidance
and advice of a total loser – which is what Ed is. It may sting a little or
hurt a lot to admit this. You may get hung up for awhile on the mistakes you
have made or the time you have wasted.
Just don’t let yourself get hung up for
too long on these things.
Feel them, deal with them, grieve the losses you may
have incurred because at that time you didn’t know any better, and then MOVE
Move on so that Ed cannot harm you or
hurt you anymore. Move on so that others will know that if you can do it they
can too. Move on so Ed feels the sting – the ache – of relationships lost. Move
on because if you don’t, you won’t survive Ed’s “help” forever.
do you need to do to start moving on? Do you need to rage? Do you need to cry?
Do you need to whine or quake or hide under the bed?
Whatever you need to do, DO IT, and
then affirm yourself for doing this difficult work and taking the first step
towards a supportive relationship with yourself and others that leaves no room
for Ed AT ALL.