In honor of “Change the Way You See Not the Way You Look” Week this week (Aug 2-7), I thought I’d join the movement on behalf of WeAretheRealDeal and add a post to the mix (All bloggers are encouraged to do so! For details click here. )
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.”– Marcel Proust.
It’s one of my favorite quotes that in many ways addresses the art of “reframing,” something that truly helped me recover from my disordered eating past, as I learned to look at my situation through a different lens.
This notion is very much what Caitlin, the leader of the Operation Beautiful movement and blogger at Healthy Tipping Point , is promoting.
So I thought today, in honor of this special week, I’d explore this notion a bit further from the lens of my current state in the hopes that it will inspire some conversation here on the blog, or maybe it’s something you’ll explore or ponder in your own private life. Either way, in our society that glamorizes thinness above all else … it’s a conversation that needs to be had.
So here is my take.
Being pregnant, it’s not surprising that my sense of physical sense has completely changed. Obviously, I’m in a position where my appearance is changing; where gaining weight is required and comes with the territory. But instead of fearing it or freaking out about it, I’m seeing myself through a very different lens than I did previously.
The truth is, I’m seeing myself as a vessel now. Now that my baby is moving and kicking and making her presence known, I’m more aware of everything I do: how I’m eating, exercising, taking care to sleep, rest, drink plenty of water more than ever before …
I’m viewing my body as more than just a body but rather as a source of life – one that isn’t mine and mine alone anymore. I can’t (and wouldn’t) abuse it and risk jeopardizing her health for anything.
Now I realize this is a unique experience in changing how you see yourself, as I’m literally undergoing a physical transformation as we speak. But I feel like it’s teaching me so much already, and hopefully I’ll continue to see myself in this better, more positive light even after our little girl is born.
If anything, I want to be able to set a good example for her someday: teach her that in spite of what she sees around her in the media or at school or wherever … she’s so much more than just her looks.
And that’s a lesson that bears repeating until our society as a whole changes what it values. Operation Beautiful is a great first step and one I am happy to support. Will you join the movement?
How about you? How can you change the way you see?