When Finding Melissa clashed with Pro Ana and the Nanny State…
Posted Oct 20 2009 12:00am
I have tried to be positive with my site.
I have been sensitive with the subject – and with the audience.
But the escalation of pro-anorexia websites – in comparison to the impossibility of getting anyone to promote an anti pro-anorexia site – has pushed me over the edge.
It’s utter madness – and I’m fuming.
We’re so scared of saying the wrong thing that we’re saying nothing at all .
We’re so worried about being seen as promoting or contributing to the rise in eating disorders that it’s safer to sanitise – or silence – anything that’s a little risqué, a little too frank.
So, I’ll keep talking about it, even if the reception’s a little hushed; because, the silence just plays into the disorder and adds to the fear.
And I’ll keep sending out my links, even though people are too scared to reciprocate; because, finding out that my feelings weren’t unique was key to my recovery and helped me make sense of the things I couldn’t understand alone.
I’ll get over any self doubt – because I know that what I’ve learnt is important – and I’ll put the shame to one side – because my eating disorder has diminished me enough – and I’ll keep twittering and blogging and writing about it all, in the hope that, one day, someone get a little bit brave –
And realises that Finding Melissa might actually help…