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"they have to want to recover"

Posted Aug 26 2008 4:04pm

One of the common sentiments in eating disorder lore is: " they need to want to save themselves ." or " they have to want to recover "

No they don't.

How condescending to think that ED patients languish and die because they don't "want" to be better, or don't "want it enough."

How cruel to force people to choose to get better, to choose every bite, to resist falling back, and to have insight into the entire process.

And for a child? A child should have to choose whether to get better or worse three times a day plus snacks?

Until they are fully nourished, physically restored, behaviorally stable, emotionally safe, it is OUR job to "want" recovery enough to get the job done. Their job is to trust us until they can trust themselves again.

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