How condescending to think that ED patients languish and die because they don't "want" to be better, or don't "want it enough."
How cruel to force people to choose to get better, to choose every bite, to resist falling back, and to have insight into the entire process.
And for a child? A child should have to choose whether to get better or worse three times a day plus snacks?
Until they are fully nourished, physically restored, behaviorally stable, emotionally safe, it is OUR job to "want" recovery enough to get the job done. Their job is to trust us until they can trust themselves again.