That tired ideas about parenting and eating disorders still live and thrive under a new kind of packaging that starts out saying "This isn't your fault" but ties it up with a "here's where you need fixing." I'm sorry folks, but saying "some shared characteristics exist in families where an eating disorder is present" is not only untrue but it is blaming. While patients with mental illness do often report the people around them acting in certain ways that doesn't make those observations true. I know it is hard to give up on the idea of cold, disconnected, over-bearing, self-involved parents but as long as you base your family interventions on these false assumptions and employ confirmation bias to evaluate your efforts, you risk harming the patients you want to help. Parents of eating disorder patients are much like all parents: good, bad, and in between. The diagnosis of our children tells you nothing, NOTHING, about our families or even the patient except that they have this mental illness.