The Abyss of Bad Body Image…Don’t Get Sucked Under!
Posted Jun 16 2012 2:09pm
How many times in your life have you been having a perfectly pleasant day and then suddenly find yourself drowning in negative body image? In an instant, you feel like X body part has tripled in size even though, rationally, you know that is not possible. Over the course of my life, throughout relapse and recovery, I have had countless moments like this. Every therapist I have gone to throughout my life told me that “body image is the last thing to go” in ED recovery. As a therapist working with ED clients, I endorse this train of thought as well.
Given our culture, I don’t know that body image ever fully dissipates. The notion that in order to be successful and beautiful you must be skinny penetrates every media outlet. So, everywhere you go, watch, and read the message is clear. Plenty of women without EDs have moments of “feeling fat” or thinking their quality of life would improve if their pants were just a bit looser. Rationally we know that this is not true, but our minds–ED or not–are not always rational. So, even after years in recovery or being fully recovered, there may be momentary flashes of negative body images.
I would be misrepresenting myself if I said that I don’t ever experience body image issues. However, the major difference today is HOW I CHOOSE TO RESPOND.Today when that negative voice tries to disrupt my happiness, I realize that I have a choice. I can choose to listen to it and really get into self-hatred. Or, I can choose to not listen, knowing that nothing good can come out of it. If it pervades and tries to lure me further by giving me a sudden awareness of a certain body part, I have to really ask myself what else is going on? If I am okay with my body one minute, but having issues the next, then, clearly, this is not about body image.
My clients often ask me, so HOW do you choose not to engage in negative body image?? Here are a few actions that work for me:
1.) I that I am having negative thoughts about my body.
2.) I possible explanations as to why the thoughts are occurring at this particular moment. Many might think that there are no explanations, and that it “just happens.” I encourage you to dig a bit deeper with this. Even if it is ED talking and thus doesn’t need explanations, ED is not a separate entity that lives in your brain. It may feel like that, however, you are the only person that is actually thinking and listening to your thoughts.
3.) I MAKE A DECISION NOT TO ENGAGE. More than that, I have to ask myself, DO I WANT TO ENGAGE IN SELF-LOVE OR SELF-HATRED TODAY? This is what it really comes down to. It might feel like you haven’t any choice, but YOU DO!!! I’m not saying it is easy, but you can do this. It is difficult to want to choose self-love when it is so comfortable to emotionally beat yourself up. Recovery from negative body image is hard work, but it is far from impossible!
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY: FOR THIS MOMENT, I HAVE THE ABILITY TO THINK POSITIVELY ABOUT MYSELF.