Our eating disorder loves to tell us that we don't know what to do to
get better. It loves to distract us with food-related thoughts and
behaviors so recovery seems overwhelmingly confusing - and too
time-consuming to devote any significant attention to. After awhile, we
even start to believe ourselves when we say "I'm stuck - I don't know
what to do".
But we are not stuck. And we do know what to do.
What takes time is learning HOW to do it, and practicing our new skills
so when we need them the most, they will be on the top of our go-to list
instead of buried somewhere at the bottom.
In the movie " Contact " (one of my favs and I talk about it a lot!) you see how forming a simple, pure, and powerful
statement of intention cuts through all the complications and obstacles
that stand in the path of making the discovery of a lifetime. You see
two characters, Ellie ( Jodie Foster ) and Palmer ( Matthew McConaughey ),
making their own way towards the pursuit of truth - using different
means, encountering different obstacles and choices, but ultimately
arriving at their goal because of the power of their statement of
They knew what we are still learning - that FAILURE = Not getting back up, and SUCCESS = Getting back up.
What messages are you sending to yourself each day about failure and
success? When you get knocked down, do you stay down or get back up
again? Do you have rules (no doubt suggested and reinforced by the
eating disorder so often that you have come to think they are your own)
about how many times you can get knocked down before you have to stay
down and admit defeat? What can you do - now - today - to get back to
the basics and follow your intention to recover all the way to its
logical conclusion - RECOVERY?