KM, in all relationships, including of course, therapist/client ones, glitches can happen.
Such is life, right? Glitches aren't generally fun (I can't think of a time when I've thought a glitch in a relationship was fun...). And, of course, there are all kinds of glitches, and a range of glitches (everything from small misunderstanding to major fissure in the relationship).
When a glitch occurs in a therapist/client relationship you basically proceed as you would in any other relationship. As you pointed out, KM, the two people talk, and they try to work through what happened.
As in any relationship, this can take some time (depending on what type of glitch it was and how significantly it rocked or damaged the relationship). And, even when working through the glitch is going well, the relationship may need time to recover and repair.
It's not unusual for the connection between people to feel different when a glitch has occured- strained or tense, and one or both people can feel like they are being extra careful or walking on egg shells- at least for awhile. That, in and of itself, is not necessarily an indication of whether the process of working through is on track.
Of course, if, over time, both people don't feel as if repairing is happening, and if both people don't begin to feel comfortable and connected, then it may be that the process of repairing and healing is not going well. This is something to keep assessing, and to continue talking about with your therapist.
The good news about when glitches occur in therapist/client relationships is that therapists are trained to deal with glitches (we spend a ton of time learning how to deal with glitches of all sorts!)- and competent therapists do not shy away from directly working through glitches that come along.
As usual, the best option is to keep assessing the situation/relationship over time, be scrupulously honest with yourself about how you're feeling and doing in the relationship, and try to stay true to what you know and feel.
Although glitches can be hard to deal with, they can sometimes provide great opportunities to deepen and strengthen a relationship. So sometimes a glitch, far from being a catastrophic event, can turn out to be an important and positive juncture.
KM, in all relationships, including of course, therapist/client ones, glitches can happen.
Such is life, right? Glitches aren't generally fun (I can't think of a time when I've thought a glitch in a relationship was fun...). And, of course, there are all kinds of glitches, and a range of glitches (everything from small misunderstanding to major fissure in the relationship).When a glitch occurs in a therapist/client relationship you basically proceed as you would in any other relationship. As you pointed out, KM, the two people talk, and they try to work through what happened.
As in any relationship, this can take some time (depending on what type of glitch it was and how significantly it rocked or damaged the relationship). And, even when working through the glitch is going well, the relationship may need time to recover and repair.
It's not unusual for the connection between people to feel different when a glitch has occured- strained or tense, and one or both people can feel like they are being extra careful or walking on egg shells- at least for awhile. That, in and of itself, is not necessarily an indication of whether the process of working through is on track.
Of course, if, over time, both people don't feel as if repairing is happening, and if both people don't begin to feel comfortable and connected, then it may be that the process of repairing and healing is not going well. This is something to keep assessing, and to continue talking about with your therapist.
The good news about when glitches occur in therapist/client relationships is that therapists are trained to deal with glitches (we spend a ton of time learning how to deal with glitches of all sorts!)- and competent therapists do not shy away from directly working through glitches that come along.
As usual, the best option is to keep assessing the situation/relationship over time, be scrupulously honest with yourself about how you're feeling and doing in the relationship, and try to stay true to what you know and feel.
Although glitches can be hard to deal with, they can sometimes provide great opportunities to deepen and strengthen a relationship. So sometimes a glitch, far from being a catastrophic event, can turn out to be an important and positive juncture.