This is familiar to me because I have the same problem. I have allies who I think are narrow to the point of visionless, married to single issues to the exclusion of reasonableness, and unable to distinguish single ideas from the more complex people who hold them. I often find myself defending ideas but being shot down on the basis of there being extreme people who also hold them. Well, I have to guard against doing that to others. I have to stop the "don't say that thing because it leads to that awful other thing." I've got to allow for people not being as extreme as they seem just as I ask it for myself.
My goal for this conference was to disappoint those who enjoy seeing me, and others of similar thinking, as foolish zealots. I think, I hope, that my presentation helped. I believe showing up helps, and I do that with the material and emotional support of many friends, allies, and my dear family.
Thank you for this opportunity, and sorry for the rambling nature of this report!