Throughout my life, I’ve been surrounded by talks of weight-loss and diets. One of the fears I tend to hear the most is that, “When I finally lose all that weight, who will I be?” These people (mostly women) describe themselves as always having been “the chubby one,” “the funny overweight one,” “the one with ‘just the personality’.” They fear people will see them differently if they suddenly have the looks to go along with it (as if they don’t already) or like people will no longer appreciate them for their humor or personalities.
I used to fear the same thing, too. For most of my life, I was always “the tiny one,” “the scrawny one.” I liked it (though I would pretend not to) and I started to freak out when people stopped referring to me as such. That was “who I was,” and I was determined to keep it that way. Ironically, this lead to me losing myself.
In gaining weight (and health), I’ve learned so much more about who I am, who I want to be. Most importantly, I’ve come to realize that I am still exactly who I have been my whole life. I feel like I’ve taken pieces of my whole life and finally put them together.
Saying that you can lose who you are in changing your size could not be further from the truth, but a lot of people fear it nonetheless. If you’ve ever felt this way, why do you think that is?