The comments from both Tilda and Courtney illustrate how we often know what is not the right scene for us, and how we often feel we have to participate (and even try to convince ourselves we want to participate!).
Courtney's "Coach purse" phenomenon is a good example of how we feel pressured to conform to what other people like, and want us to like. Some people like Coach purses, some people love them, some people don't care one way or another, some people don't know what a Coach purse is... there are a lot of options (which is why there are a lot of purse makers out there!). No one is required to like or dislike Coach purses. Courtney has her own scene, which appears to include Guitar Hero and not Coach purses.
Courtney did a good job of getting clear with herself about how she felt about Coach purses, and then she went a step further and did something true to herself about the situation.
I think Tilda's comment might illustrate a "front end" dilemma. A front end dilemma occurs when we accidentally get ourselves into a situation we actually sort of knew we didn't want to get into but couldn't get ourselves to say no to right off the bat. There can be a variety of reasons we didn't decline immediately, and sometimes certain situations are unavoidable but we have to do them anyway (but that's not the kind I'm talking about here).
Here's an example of a front end situation: I'm walking down the street and someone asks me to come to their party later that evening. I say "yes" instantly, when I know perfectly well that the last thing I want to do is go to that person's party later that evening. But then I've said yes and so what do I do? I have a couple of options, neither of which are fun or make me feel very good about myself. I can 1. go to the party and pretend I want to be there (or not pretend- either way it will be a miserable experience), or 2. I can call the person and say I can't come. I set myself up for these two lousy options by not staying true to myself when the invitation was extended.
It may have been a challenge to say "no" to the invite, but it would have saved me some angst later on...
People often get into front end dilemmas because staying true to themselves (and acting on it) seems harder/scarier/more uncertain in the moment than ignoring and/or disregarding what's true and saying what they think is "right" or what the other person wants them to do or say.
Front end situations land us in all kinds of predicaments we wish we weren't in. To avoid them, we have to be still for a moment, assess what's true for us, and try to act accordingly. As a reminder, it's always ok when someone asks you for something/to do something, to say, "oh, thanks for the invitation, let me check my schedule" or "let me call you back after I check out a couple of things" or anything like that.