A friend of mine told me this phrase once when I had suffered a painful rejection.
She says it's commonly said in AA, and it's very interesting to think about. I found it reassuring and helpful back when she told me, so I thought maybe you guys might find it useful also.
At the very least it will give you something to think about (like you guys need any more things to think about... :)
"Rejection is God's way of Protection"
See... pretty interesting. My friend told me this phrase when I'd been painfully rejected by someone I'd known and loved for many years. The rejection was sudden and inexplicable. I had lots of trouble figuring out what had happened- and truthfully I never did understand since it seemed unfathomable to me. Still does in fact.
But the saying helped. As I got farther along in my grieving process I could see that, although it was a terrible loss, I would be better off. This person, though I loved her dearly, was not really what she pretended to be. She wasn't as nice as she made it look.
So... I could see how being rejected by her did turn out to protect me.
Then I thought about it in terms of how our bodies work, which also made sense to me. After all, think of a sneeze! That's a way our bodies protect us, right? By rejecting whatever's parked in our nose that our body doesn't think should be there! It's actually darn cool. I can think of a bunch of other body examples, but I think I'll just leave it at that one...
Rejection is SO painful. And I'm not sure this saying applies to every situation. I mean, I've had things rejected for publication and I can't see how that's ever protected me...but I don't know everything (I know, you're all shocked) so perhaps it does apply there also...
In personal relationships, the saying sure seems to hold.