"If you meet with obstacles, you try to overcome them. You fix what you need to fix to reach what you believe is your goal. If you still can't fix it, if you're hitting a wall, it probably means you're not doing what you're supposed to be doing. Change careers. Change direction. You're meant to be doing something else." pages 27 - 28 Crossing Over by John Edward. ( www.johnedward.net )
Right/Write on, John!
I've been re-reading Crossing Over since I haven't had a chance to get to the library to pick up some books I reserved. This book is about the journey John Edward took to get his show on the SciFi network. (For those of you unfamiliar, John Edward is a medium - a person who connects the living with the dead. Supposedly. If you believe in life after death. Which, honestly, I want to believe, but am skeptical. Just call me "Doubting Jeanne" and show me a sign (or two or three.))
Anyway, on a higher level (no pun intended,) I respect John Edward immensely - regardless of what I believe or hope. When something isn't working right, he changes it. He hasn't been afraid to try something new or different - even if there are cynics and others waiting to shoot him down. He believes in his message - which is that human consciousness lives on, that love transcends the physical world - and he will do whatever it takes to get his message through.
Later in this book, he writes,
"In any career, if you make it about the work first, the money will take care of itself. You don't have to be a spiritual person to embrace this ethic. And you don't have to be a Wall Street shark to lose sight of it. Especially if you also allow yourself to fall prey to some of the other human impulses: competition with peers, resentment at being left behind, the desire for control and power." page 51 Crossing Over by John Edward
This is not only true about careers/jobs, but also about life and choices. If you are true to yourself and strive to do the next right thing (whatever that next right thing is at any given time,) then everything else will fall into place.
It is when we compare ourselves with others, when we feel compelled to control anything and everything we can, that we fall. Countless times through my recovery, I've looked at the super thin models and actresses and wished for their bodies. I've walked into a room full of women and sorted them by weight and declared myself "fat." And then I'd take my "fatness" and starve and exercise - my attempts to control it, because I thought the rest of my life was spinning beyond my realm of influence.
I started making the biggest strides in recovery when I realized all this and relinguished control (if only for a while) to someone else so I could remain in charge. The best example is how I allow Mike, my personal trainer, to control the numbers in the fitness center (the number of pounds I lift, the level of incline I run, the speeds I move at.) But I remain in charge - I can take back control whenever I wish. I just choose not to. I don't need to. I trust Mike, so why tempt myself with numbers?
Life isn't a contest. There is no prize for the thinnest or richest or strongest. The prize is in the savoring of every moment.