9)what damage was done to your relationship with God?
10)what other problems did your using create?
Read recovery and relapse every day for a month.
The chapter says a relapse means we are holding on to
11)what parts of the program are you not willing to trust?Can
you identify any reservations?
Often we find that our surrender only scratches the surface.Only
A full surrender works with this disease.Use this chapter as a guideline
The whole point of this worksheet is to look back and identify and discover in what areas you failed to work your program of recovery. If we dont learn from our relapses.....and become aware of what not to do again¦..we are destined to repeat those same mistakes.
If you are willing to at least look at your thinking, feelings, and behavior that led up to the relapse¦..you are moving towards recovery, not away from it.
It is just as important to look at assets, as well as liabilities. We look at what was working as opposed to what didn"t work and identify problem areas. These are the areas we want to bring into our awareness this time.so they won't slip below the radar again.
In what ways was I actively working my program? (explain/describe, include feelings) Meetings? Sponsor? Steps? Higher power? Service?
In what areas did I let my program slide or become complacent? (explain/describe, include feelings) Meetings? Sponsor? Steps? Higher power? Service?
In what ways was my life manageable?(explain/describe, include feelings) Mentally? Emotionally? Physically? Spiritually?
In what ways was my life unmanageable? (explain/describe be specific, include feelings) Mentally? Emotionally? Physically? Spiritually?
What events/situations affected my life negatively? (people, places, things, relationships, work) How did I handle those events? (positive/negative) What choices (self-will) do I think led me back into unmanageably? Were these choices well thought out or impulsive reactions? Did you choose by default and ignore the warning signs) In what ways was I in denial of the direction I was heading? What circumstances could I have handled differently? In what way?
How was my emotional life unmanageable without the use of drugs? (in what ways â€“ describe feelings and over what).
What were my thinking processes? (describe) Was I lying to myself? Did I justify my actions?
How did my behavior change? In what ways?
In what areas did I lack faith or not use my Higher Powers Guidance?
In what ways did my character defects come into play? (explain/describe all areas) Denial? Dishonesty? Selfishness? Stealing? Emotional stealing others trust? Emotional, physical, sexual, financial manipulation of others? Distrust of self and others? Resentments? How they affected me and what actions did I take / or not take? Self reliance/isolation? Blame? Who did I blame for my feelings and why? Did I abandon myself?
In what ways did I depend on others to meet my needs? Where did I not take responsibility for myself and my program? In what ways did I give my power to others?
Now looking at the answers to all these questions Identify the problem areas?
What do I need to work on? What do I need to watch for? Warning signs? Triggers?
In my best thinking¦..How could I actively stay aware and work my program differently this time? (explain/describe).
What active actions can I take to promote my recovery?
How does my behavior need to change?
How will I rely on my Higher power to help me make these changes?
How can I align my will with my Higher powers guidance?
What can I do this time that I did not do last time to ensure a stronger program.
Things that put our recovery in jeopardy or prevent us from enjoying complete recovery and acceptance within society.
1. Dishonesty- Acts of lying, cheating or stealing (Suggestion) Share it with someone you trust ,preferably your Sponser .
2. Self-deceit- Lying to ones self (Suggestion) Listen to Your N.A. support group and Your sponsor .
3. To step out alone and run our own lives again- Moving away from a third step .
4. Do not use what we have- Not giving back what was so freely given to us (Suggestion) help a newcomer, service work, and do some H&I or twelve step work .
5. Apathy- An absence of emotion or enthusiasm , getting lazy in our program (Suggestion) reapply ourselves to the basics of the N.A. program. We stay in close contact with our sponsor, work the steps, and go to meetings REGULARLY .
6. Procrastination- Putting it off until later -(Suggestion) Delay gratification .
7. Overtime some addicts lost contact lost contact with other recovering addicts and eventually returned to active addiction- losing touch with our network. - Alienation (definition) separation as a result of hostility
8. Those who do not work our program of recovery on a daily basis may relapse - Recovery has the shelf life of a meer 24 hrs , nothing more .
9. We begin to slight (neglect) our program and leave loopholes -- Reservations may come back & Reservations KILL .
10. We stumble blindly in the belief that we can make it on our own- self will run riot (Suggestion) recommit to my third step decision .
11. We fall into the illusions that drugs make life easier; 12. We believe that drugs can change us; 13. We believe that drugs can solve our problems - The committee at work - (Suggestion) those thoughts grow in the dark and die in the light of exposure. Tell on Yourself .
14. Forgot what they can do to us- Not keeping it green- (Suggestion) Help a newcomer - take on or speak at an H&I commitment- do a 12 step call with other experienced members .
15. Not taking care of our personal affairs lowers our self-esteem- Falling into laziness .
16. Missing meetings- (Suggestion) break the cycle and go to a meeting- don't listen to the committee .
17. Neglecting twelfth step work- Carrying the message to still sick and suffering addicts (Suggestion) You can only keep what you have by giving it away .
18. Not getting involved- (Suggestion) Take on a commitment- Get people's numbers and use them- go to the diner after the meeting .
19. We may sense a change coming over us- That inner gnawing (Suggestion) listen to your conscience .
20. Our ability to remain open-minded disappears- Close-minded (definition) Intolerant of the beliefs and opinions of others - (Suggestion) When the pain gets great enough -NO MATTER WHAT DON'T USE .
21.We may become angry and resentful- Anger (Basic Text Pg. 94) Is our reaction to present reality- Resentment (Basic Text Pg.94) Reliving past experiences over and over again .
22. We may begin to reject those who were close to us-- Cut off close friends -Fear of intimacy (Suggestion) Take a risk and discuss the issues , better yet attand a meeting .
23. We isolate-Separation between persons or groups (Suggestion) Share about it at a meeting -make a phone call .
24. We became as Sick as our Secrets -Our conscious convicts us when we do things unspiritual .
25. We revert back to our sickest behavior patterns without even having to use drugs-Clean and crazy (Suggestion) Recommit to the foundation of the program ,The first 3 steps .
26. Failure to practice the steps-(Suggestion) Work the steps or die MF
27. We often become extreme in our self-obsessive attempt to cover our tracks-Covering up and hiding from others, things that we our acting out on (Suggestion) Share it with someone in recovery who you feel won't judge you.- or Share with someone who doesn't know you .
28.We focus on anything that isn't going our way and ignore all the beauty in our lives- Life on life's terms (Suggestion) reapply the first three steps .
29. Cockiness is a red light indicator- Offensive assertiveness (Suggestion) Get humble or get humiliated . Can't save you face & your ass at the same time.
30. When we forget the effort and the work that it took us to get a period of freedom in our lives-Selective amnesia (Suggestion) help a newcomer, service work, and do some twelve step work .
31. Relationships can be a terribly painful area. We tend to fantasize and project what will happen. We get angry and resentful if our fantasies are not fulfilled we forget that we are powerless over people. The old thoughts and feelings of loneliness, despair, helplessness and self-pity creep in. Thoughts of sponsors, meetings, literature and all other Positive input leave our consciousness .
32. When being clean is not the top priority-Anything that I put before my recovery I'll loose (Suggestion) Share and listen to your N.A. network and sponsor .
Things that will prevent a relapse
1. We have to keep our recovery first and our priorities in order -
2. Writing about what we want, what we are asking for, what we get and sharing this with our sponsor or another trusted person helps us to work through negative feelings-
3. Attending meetings daily- 90 Meetings in the 1st 90 days .
4. Living a day at a time--
5. Reading N.A. literature-
6. Willingness to try what has worked for others is vital-
7. It is Important to share our feelings of wanting to use drugs-
8. It is important to remember that the desire to use will pass-
9. We come here powerless, and the power we seek comes to us through other people in Narcotics Anonymous, But we must reach out for it-
10. We need each other-
11. Reaching out is the beginning of the struggle that will set us free-
12. Honest sharing will free us to recover -
13. We must totally surrender ourselves to the program-
14. We tell those we have harmed that we were to blame and make whatever amends are necessary-
15. As long as we maintain an attitude of thankfulness for being clean, we find it easier to remain clean-
16. If we are plagued by an obsession to use , experience has taught us to call a fellow recovering addict and get to a meeting- http://navoices.com/index.php?topic=374.0