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My subscription to Reader's Digest recently ran out, so there are only 2 magazines that actually come to my house. Both of them are free, otherwise, they wouldn't come either. One is a local homeschooling magazine that I rarely read because it just makes me feel guilty and the other is a magazine that I devour, not because I necessarily agree with all it represents, but because I find it fascinating. However, when I read the individual testimonies, my heart sank. It is no wonder to me that the world finds little worth in individuals with Down syndrome, when we in the Body of Christ believe it is something to "fight and pray" against (My Prayer Warriors) and that only babies born without it are "perfect" (My Prayer Warriors) and "healthy"(Infertile!, I'm Glad We Didn't Listen). I found the tone of some of the articles to be bordering on arrogant, indicating that the reason their babies were born without Down syndrome is because of the prayers they offered or the attitudes they maintained during the pregnancy. I think that kind of thinking is not just offensive to me, but also to our Heavenly Father.It's called Above Rubies, self published by Nancy Campbell, and its stated purpose is to encourage mothers. There's a whole lot about eating organically healthy and other things that I tend to skip over, but I really enjoy the personal stories from her readers. Many of them have a certain "I've got it all together" tone that I find annoying, but it rarely makes me mad. Until now. This issue, there is a section of personal stories about women receiving the "Wrong Diagnosis" while pregnant and how they responded. The first story sent my normally very low blood pressure through the roof. Of course, the "diagnosis" was Down syndrome. They used the term "diagnosis" very liberally as most of the women simply had the early blood screenings which indicated they had a higher risk of Down syndrome, and declined the actual testing that would have given an actual diagnosis. Of course, because of their prayers and faith, they did not have a baby with Down syndrome. I wrote a letter to the publisher. I haven't received a response. Shocking. Dear Nancy, I am a long time subscriber and avid reader of Above Rubies magazine. I usually devour the magazine from cover to cover as soon as I get the chance. Issue 83 was no different for me. To say I was disappointed is an extreme understatement. From the moment I read your intro in the section titled "Wrong Diagnosis", I had a bad feeling about where it was going. While a bit inaccurate (no physician would encourage termination for Down syndrome without a confirmed diagnosis), you are correct that the medical community does indeed often push for the termination of Down syndrome pregnancies. In fact, the current estimation here in the US shows 92% of confirmed Down syndrome pregnancies are terminated. I have one friend who was told of her positive amnio results and immediately informed, "I will call and schedule your termination for as soon as possible." When she adamantly declined, her obstetrician's office phoned her THREE more times to inform her that she was running out of time to legally abort. It is a travesty.At exactly 39 weeks, I gave birth to a 7lb, 10 oz perfect and healthy baby boy, who also has Down syndrome. We are very proud of our son's "designer genes"! We know that he was indeed fearfully and wonderfully made and created in the image of an Almighty God. At 3-years-old, he is very much more like typical kids than different. He enjoys playing cars and wrestling with his older brothers and he is as gentle as a 3yo boy can be with his baby sister. We like having him in our family so much, that we are moving forward to internationally adopt another little boy or girl with Down syndrome. I wish people in the Church would get educated. I wish that they would seek information to see beyond the common myths associated with Down syndrome. Our son is not an "angel". He is most certainly not "happy all the time". He is not "downs" or "mentally retarded". He's a little boy who happens to have an extra chromosome. Because of that, it takes him a little longer to learn things that come easily to other children. He will learn to read, ride a bike, and, hopefully, drive a car. Young adults with Down syndrome are attending college, working meaningful jobs, and even getting married. We have high hopes for our Simeon. But, even if his intellectual disability causes him to live with us as an adult, we know that we have been given a gift and we are forever grateful. I hope that we will see more positive stories of people and children with disabilities in your magazine in the future. I hope that you will join us in working to remove the fear associated with parenting a child with special needs. Not all the gifts that God gives look the same, but the joy and the rewards are completely worth the challenge. Sincerely, I'll let you know if she responds. |
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