A friend of mine committed suicide this morning. I didn't see it coming.

One might think that since I have suffered from depression, I might be able to see the signs in a person. Well, I guess I can't.

Bubba had some problems of late. He was having some issues with his girlfriend.

His business was going through some pains. Whenever Bubba talked about that, he had ideas as to how things were going to get better.

Why didn't he say anything? Or did he?

Why didn't he ask for help? Or did he?

Did we miss the cry or:

Was it because he was afraid of what people would think?

Was he afraid people would think he was weak?

Was it because men aren't supposed to show their feelings?

I mean, my God, the guy was loved by so many people. I hadn't known Bubba for very long, but I really liked him. He was just "one of those kind of people."

I don't know!!!!

Friends, please, if you or someone you know has troubles, ask for help. It's not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of strength. It's the strength to say: "I don't have all of the answers. I have questions." Don't worry about what others may think.

Don't think the problem is too big to handle. Don't think no-one will understand. It's not and we will.

These things may sound like platitudes. At one time, that's what they were for me. Once I started to let go of the negative thoughts and stereotypes, the issues in life don't seem to be so complicated.

Keep Bubba's family and friends in your thoughts and prayers. He was a blessing to us all and he is missed.

We love you, Chris!

Phil Holleman spent 10 years struggling with major depression.  After realizing he had the knowledge and strength to rise above the illness and stigma associated with it, he created ABoldNewLife.com to help others who are recovering or desperately want to recover from depression. He hopes you will join him on the journey and use your inner strength to free yourself from the bondage.