can someone who has postpardum fixate there problem on the spouse but seem happy over all otherwise???
Posted by
merrec
My wife of 10 years and i have 2 children one of which is 4 years old and the other is now 9 months old.. At for months she went from being loving one minute and i mean this literally to being hatefull and resentfull toward me (husband) and kicked me out of the house , she goes from pleasant with me to cold and hateful , she has put on weight and seems to bounce around with the weight , she dont seem to be herself , she seems to have no sex drive at all now , cant talk to her about this or our marriage without her getting upset
She feels alienated from herself , thinks im always trying to guilt her , snappish with others in the family. Suddenly seems to fear me for no reasons at all, has trust issues with me for again no reasons at all , has constant headackes and has been sick a lot resently ..One day she was on the tread mill and i walked by smiled and did a little chuckle and she took it badly and went and cried , says she is done with me and has no feelings for me anymore , yet she cries when we do talk and i try to talk about our family and marriage. She feels tired and worn down all the time but with two kids and not allowing me to be around to help her with this also has to play a part in this as well..
she has a history of depression in her family , had PPD badly for our first child , couldnt breast feed was on birth control , seems to worry about her appearance more then she use to , and has told a friend who was a complete stranger that she dont feel like she knows herself anymore and wants time and space to find herself and figure out what she wants..
The odd thing is this happened 4 months after giving birth and it seemed sudden now its been 4 and a half more since then and she is still acting this way , but more importantly she seems happy for the most part and seems to have every negative emotion directed at me , i have done nothing but support her feelings and even taken blame for things i had nothing to do with ..
Can these emotions or imbalances be unoticed to her or even be placed or make them feel better if they have one person to blame and actually in ways seem to feel better if they got someone to blame ?? I mean really we have had 10 years of a good marriage even her charts at the hospital showed she was happy with life before she gave birth and at her 6 week check she seemed to be normal i guess , but seems to be totally happy with things other then when it comes to her and me but yet here we are almost 5 months later and she still hasnt filed for a divorce and still gets emotional when i try to talk to her about it , that to me shows she still cares and is confused i would think but at the same time she seems to be generally happy but worn down and seems to have me placed as the blame for all her discomfort in life.. We could get 10 inches of snow i could go shovel her drive way and she would be mad at me for doing so , i no i too was lost in a game and wasnt being supportive to help out with two kids and she felt neglected from this as well..Can this be possible or a thyroid problem cause this as well , i mean no sex drive , fatigue , constant moodswings mainly with me only and more but all mainly directed at me , can it still be going on if it is something like PPD and can she not realize she has a problem and can she actually feel better by thinking im the problem in her life and blaming me for everything she can think of ????
Please answer this call soon im dieing for help with this , i have missed so much of my baby daughters life already and my son is having emotional problems cause im not there and he wants me there going so far as to sceam at the wife saying he is kicking her out and daddy is moving in, and im desperatley trying to keep our family together and support her feelings and well being , but she refuses to get checked refuses counceling and her family isnt helping either...
Posted by merrec
My wife of 10 years and i have 2 children one of which is 4 years old and the other is now 9 months old.. At for months she went from being loving one minute and i mean this literally to being hatefull and resentfull toward me (husband) and kicked me out of the house , she goes from pleasant with me to cold and hateful , she has put on weight and seems to bounce around with the weight , she dont seem to be herself , she seems to have no sex drive at all now , cant talk to her about this or our marriage without her getting upset
She feels alienated from herself , thinks im always trying to guilt her , snappish with others in the family. Suddenly seems to fear me for no reasons at all, has trust issues with me for again no reasons at all , has constant headackes and has been sick a lot resently ..One day she was on the tread mill and i walked by smiled and did a little chuckle and she took it badly and went and cried , says she is done with me and has no feelings for me anymore , yet she cries when we do talk and i try to talk about our family and marriage. She feels tired and worn down all the time but with two kids and not allowing me to be around to help her with this also has to play a part in this as well..
she has a history of depression in her family , had PPD badly for our first child , couldnt breast feed was on birth control , seems to worry about her appearance more then she use to , and has told a friend who was a complete stranger that she dont feel like she knows herself anymore and wants time and space to find herself and figure out what she wants..
The odd thing is this happened 4 months after giving birth and it seemed sudden now its been 4 and a half more since then and she is still acting this way , but more importantly she seems happy for the most part and seems to have every negative emotion directed at me , i have done nothing but support her feelings and even taken blame for things i had nothing to do with ..
Can these emotions or imbalances be unoticed to her or even be placed or make them feel better if they have one person to blame and actually in ways seem to feel better if they got someone to blame ?? I mean really we have had 10 years of a good marriage even her charts at the hospital showed she was happy with life before she gave birth and at her 6 week check she seemed to be normal i guess , but seems to be totally happy with things other then when it comes to her and me but yet here we are almost 5 months later and she still hasnt filed for a divorce and still gets emotional when i try to talk to her about it , that to me shows she still cares and is confused i would think but at the same time she seems to be generally happy but worn down and seems to have me placed as the blame for all her discomfort in life.. We could get 10 inches of snow i could go shovel her drive way and she would be mad at me for doing so , i no i too was lost in a game and wasnt being supportive to help out with two kids and she felt neglected from this as well..Can this be possible or a thyroid problem cause this as well , i mean no sex drive , fatigue , constant moodswings mainly with me only and more but all mainly directed at me , can it still be going on if it is something like PPD and can she not realize she has a problem and can she actually feel better by thinking im the problem in her life and blaming me for everything she can think of ????
Please answer this call soon im dieing for help with this , i have missed so much of my baby daughters life already and my son is having emotional problems cause im not there and he wants me there going so far as to sceam at the wife saying he is kicking her out and daddy is moving in, and im desperatley trying to keep our family together and support her feelings and well being , but she refuses to get checked refuses counceling and her family isnt helping either...