"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." ~Dr. Seuss~
It's good to develop the ability to be flexible and adapt to change because inevitably, it will happen. There is nothing wrong with enjoying sameness for a while. We all like to rest in the comfort of predictability, of knowing what will happen next, how the day will go, who we will spend it with and what to expect. At some point however, the future becomes the present and we have to rise up, ready to face the challenge of change. The changes that we have the hardest time adapting to are the ones that take us away from the things and people we appreciate or love the most. We think that the best part is over and nothing can ever again be so good. We have to raise our head so that we can see the new opportunities and people that await us. We must give them the opportunity to have the same importance to us that people and circumstances had in our past. We alone determine whether our future, and the people that will come into it, will have the chance to have a positive impact in our lives. Our thoughts and reactions will guide the course of our future experiences. If we love something and lose it, we have choices to make. We can decide that nothing else will ever fulfill us as much as what we had in the past. That sounds defeating and dismal. Better, we can look with hope and anticipation toward the future experiences we will have. We can realize that since we had the capacity for deep appreciation of the past events and the people in our lives, we are capable of great passion for what lies ahead. Our hearts and minds are devoted to what we cherish. We are understandably sad when we lose what we love, whether it is a job, a child leaving for college, a loved one, a pet, etc. If we decide that caring deeply hurts too much when we lose, we cheat ourselves from our own future love and happiness. We must understand that in loving we surrender to the reality that one day we will hurt because of that love. We must also realize that one day we will again smile at the memory of the love we lost. If you are looking at the end of something, I hope this helps you. Whenever I've had to let a staff member go, for whatever reason, I always hope that I am releasing her to something better for her and opening the door to someone better for us. Losing a loved one to death is harder to accept. I think it takes a while, but eventually I can smile because it was better to hurt at the loss of them than never to be able to smile because of having them. Even thoughwe can see no brightness aheadwhen we are in the process of losing, it is comforting to remember that a new light is there waiting. When we dare to raise our heads and look up again, we will see it.
"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened."
~Dr. Seuss~
It's good to develop the ability to be flexible and adapt to change because inevitably, it will happen. There is nothing wrong with enjoying sameness for a while. We all like to rest in the comfort of predictability, of knowing what will happen next, how the day will go, who we will spend it with and what to expect. At some point however, the future becomes the present and we have to rise up, ready to face the challenge of change.
The changes that we have the hardest time adapting to are the ones that take us away from the things and people we appreciate or love the most. We think that the best part is over and nothing can ever again be so good. We have to raise our head so that we can see the new opportunities and people that await us. We must give them the opportunity to have the same importance to us that people and circumstances had in our past. We alone determine whether our future, and the people that will come into it, will have the chance to have a positive impact in our lives. Our thoughts and reactions will guide the course of our future experiences.
If we love something and lose it, we have choices to make. We can decide that nothing else will ever fulfill us as much as what we had in the past. That sounds defeating and dismal. Better, we can look with hope and anticipation toward the future experiences we will have. We can realize that since we had the capacity for deep appreciation of the past events and the people in our lives, we are capable of great passion for what lies ahead.
Our hearts and minds are devoted to what we cherish. We are understandably sad when we lose what we love, whether it is a job, a child leaving for college, a loved one, a pet, etc. If we decide that caring deeply hurts too much when we lose, we cheat ourselves from our own future love and happiness. We must understand that in loving we surrender to the reality that one day we will hurt because of that love. We must also realize that one day we will again smile at the memory of the love we lost.
If you are looking at the end of something, I hope this helps you. Whenever I've had to let a staff member go, for whatever reason, I always hope that I am releasing her to something better for her and opening the door to someone better for us. Losing a loved one to death is harder to accept. I think it takes a while, but eventually I can smile because it was better to hurt at the loss of them than never to be able to smile because of having them. Even thoughwe can see no brightness aheadwhen we are in the process of losing, it is comforting to remember that a new light is there waiting. When we dare to raise our heads and look up again, we will see it.