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The Simplicity of No Love by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex When my parents were getting divorced many years ago, my mother recalled my great-grandmother asking her a very simple question: “When did you know that you didn’t l ... Read on »

Social Mediation of Sexual Knowledge or, What are Ben Wa Balls? by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex I saw my first hairy vagina while walking alongside Chamblee-Dunwoody road with a friend when I was 10. Someone had evidently either liked, or disliked, a particular ... Read on »

Naming It by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex There always comes that awkward moment in every budding romance when you have to give each others’ genitals a name. Not pet names, but names that allow you to commun ... Read on »

Loving Someone Who’s Not Enough by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Here’s the problem I love M, and she’s not enough for me. I hold those two things at once notice the conjunction “and” not “but.” An incident occurred recent ... Read on »

Gift Challenged, or Why I Always Blow Birthdays by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex I received a perfect gift once – a dried beetle in a jar. R had found it on her windowsill where it had died, and it had dried out perfectly. Even its antennae were ... Read on »

Cultural Clutter and Art by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Celebrity and the Fascinati M. reads People magazine, and freely admits it. I read it when she’s asleep, and won’t admit it to anyone. (And yeah, “reading” is ... Read on »

More Infinity, Please by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Today I saw a woman who engendered in me one of those sub-vocal “Mmm-mmm-mmmm” sounds you know, picture of beauty and all that. Immediately after, I imagined her ... Read on »

The Challenge of Finishing an Erotic Story by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex It was 1994, and the young man was “in a state,” as they say, with no girlfriend and no access to pornography. So he decided to write his own fantasy. Herein ... Read on »

The Unsexy Bikini by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex It defies sexual logic but here’s what I think women in swimsuits, even in bikinis, are not very sexy at all. Having spent the last two days at the beach and ... Read on »

The Unplanned Day: When the Infinite Meets Its Ugly Brother by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex I love the morning of a day with nothing planned. But it also fills me with dread. I am America, and this is my story on this Fourth of July. It is rare to hav ... Read on »

Low Dewpoints and the Swell of Desire by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Right now the air is really, really dry low dewpoint and I’m feeling it in my shorts. There’s something about dry air that does that to me, and maybe to everybod ... Read on »

Adultery and the Fallacy of the Single Self by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Gurdjieff taught that we are comprised of many different “I”s, that we have buffers that prevent the “I”s from seeing one another all at once, and that the true me ... Read on »

Facial Recognition Brainware by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex I finally figured it out (and yes, this is my last post about faces). I really tried to work on remembering people’s faces. It’s just not happening. My facial ... Read on »

Guidelines for Ethical Adultery by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex There are a few guidelines I’d like to suggest to anyone who finds him/herself in the moral twilight zone I’ve dubbed ethical adultery. 1. Do no harm It might seem ... Read on »

One-handed men by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex This is absolutely not about what you think it’s about. In fact, it really doesn’t belong on this blog at all, but so what. I’m taking a short detour, apropos of nothing. ... Read on »

Longing and Physicality by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex It’s remarkable that two people can long for each other without ever having been in the same physical space together. “Longing” is such a perfect word to describe this fe ... Read on »

The (Angry Unpleasant Woman) in the House by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex My wife has anger management issues. I hear enough to know that it’s not uncommon. Maybe wives feel that they have free reign to nag, harrangue, and sling verbal a ... Read on »

Online Love by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Gurdjieff said once that the highest aim for man is to withstand the manifestations of others. To learn how to love, start practicing on plants and work your way up. ... Read on »

Silly Romantic Brain by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex This happens frequently now, these synchronicities, these little occurrences. I can’t be rational about them, which is part of what’s going on — I’m in this silly romant ... Read on »

Intimacy, Distance, Longing and ‘Mediated Touch’ by David Gamma Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Lately I’ve been trying to follow this trail where I’ve been thinking about how physical distance affects sexual energy. I once had a long distance relationship, pr ... Read on »

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