Remember that feeling in middle school of just wanting to fit in and be understood? The truth is, that feeling never goes away, even when we’re adults. We don’t always feel it as strongly, and we still don’t admit it most of the time, but everyone wants to know that they are not alone.
That’s really what it boils down to — the desire to be understood.
When I discuss my ulcerative colitis with people who don’t have it, I have to explain a lot. I certainly don’t mind explaining, and I really appreciate when others take the time to ask. But there’s something so nice about being able to just say, “Ugh, I’m doing that thing where I want to eat but I’m afraid about what will happen when I do .” People who have been there can listen, talk you through it, and even make concrete suggestions.
Poor Ally and Luke must feel constantly bombarded with, “Do you ever…?” questions from me. After six years of living with ulcerative colitis and not really knowing anyone who had it, I’m still constantly amazed that there are actually people like me.
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Was there ever a time in your life when feeling understood was more important to you? Who in your life makes you feel understood?