Feb 3 2013 What learned while comparing independent retirement residences
Posted Feb 04 2013 1:04am
What I learned (as a person with COPD) when looking into a retirement residential living at age 74.
After I researched 'what was out there', (from the comfort of home) on-line, in the newspapers and even ads that came in the mail, it became more clear which place had What activities, such as health care, exercise, gym, pool. I started out big, ready to scale back to bare bones if the expense is outrageous -
Doing this study and compare before hand, so you are ready to ask questions about everything you might want to have- or need.
C all and make an appointment to be shown around the property and DO take advantage of a meal if it is offered. Be aware of the time involved - how much supplemental oxygen needed if you require it.
The drive time, a half hour or better, then a discussion about your desires and requirements, some touring of the main living/social room, and rooms for different activities such as the dining room, a library, theater, perhaps a craft room, salon, pool and exercise room. You get to each byWalking and - the hallways compete with hospital halls... long and tiring. Thus my
First lesson, you had better be fairly fit- able to ambulate, for probably an hour or more. The apartments are not always furnished, so the only sit down spot is a toilet. If you are unable to do this, may as well check out Assisted living.
You don’t like that idea?
Then you had better start moving more, towards reasonable exercise sessions each day in order to keep living a nice quality of life. Where you can make the walk to the dining room, it may be a long long trek...are you ready or able to do that? or decide your first need, you have to find one of the closer in apartments.
Location is important, size of the entire place (potential new friends/neighbors) and then the apartment size are important,but as I looked and looked, I realized what totally governs the decision boils down to $$$. Not surprising... what will your $ buy you in living space, is it adequate? Is the view out of the window one you won't tire of, but the very most important question, is do you REALLY like it as a new living space, and the amenities provided.
Some of the largest apartments had crummy views, I would rather downsize my belongings even more to have a nice view/exposure. I like light and bright so I learned that a West or Southern exposure is for me. (West is a view of the Rocky mountains, South to the plains and mountains. If a place was on a lake- that would be the view I wanted.
Figure out what you like and stick to it. I am not in a rush, just want to line up for a move where we can live independently- with the option to use assisted then maybe memory unit later, should I live so long as to get dementia...we will go on a waiting list for the "right" place.
So many mind boggling details just the thinking is exhausting…but one will never get to enjoy a move unless fairly able to keep moving for some time. . If you don’t have the ability to spend a few hours, to do this, you may as well look for an assisted living section. Of course if you are in a wheel chair, you need the ability to self propell and move out of the chair to bed etc. unassisted, then you can live independently.
One should view at least several different places, and this really necessitates good strength, energy and endurance to stroll the long - long hallways to different apartment rentals (or cottages). These hallways are easily as long as those interminable ones you find in hospitals. It can take at least a couple of hours- depending upon ones stamina to keep moving...thank goodness we were able to do it, but I learned we can never stop "exercise" or we would get moved out to a different area- I don't want to go there, so I plan to keep up formal efforts to exercise.