“You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we’re not. We always have the power of our minds…Claim and consciously use your power.” _Louise L. Hay
Very recently, my 5 year old grand daughter was discussing getting her ears pierced with her paternal grandmother. At which time her grandmother revealed that she had always wanted to get her own ears pierced, but when she was growing up, her father would not allow it, and then, once she got married, her husband would not allow it. The five year old sat stunned for a moment and then told her grandmother “You are a grown woman! You can do what you want to do. You don’t have to ask Grandaddy!” The grandmother was silent and obviously lost in thought. Little did the 5 year old know that she had lit a fire under her grandmother that would bring about some much needed change. This woman just celebrated her 63rd birthday a couple of days ago, and not only that, for her birthday she got her ears pierced. Not a big deal really, but considering that she had spent a life time letting other people decide what she could and could not do, the act of getting her ears pierced spoke volumes. She finally decided to take her power back.
Women very often put the wants, wishes, and demands of others above their own in an attempt to show love and to keep everyone around them happy. It doesn’t help that some main stream religious denominations promote this type of self sacriface as something every person should strive to obtain. In those religious settings it’s not unusual to hear something along the lines of “God first, others second, and yourself last.” It sounds good, doesn’t it? Taken to the extreme, always putting everyone before yourself is a recipe for misery. I hardly think that misery is what God has in mind for you.
I remember being quite taken back, when applying for a job with a police department a number of years ago, and I was asked in the interview “Who is more important…You or your family?” Ask any woman this and she will most likely respond “My family.” Ladies, this is the wrong answer. You would have failed that interview. The reason? You cannot take good care of others if you are not taking the best possible care of yourself.
There also comes a time when one must discern who actually needs taking care of, and who needs to take care of their own self. Maybe that time is now. It’s no secret that those who can use and abuse your energy, time, and resources will do so as long as they have your permission.
Think about it. Are there people in your life who place too many demands on you? Is there someone who tries to control what you will and will not do? Is everyone happy all around you, except for you? Then maybe it’s time for you take your power back. You do have the power to heal your own life.