How to Exercise Enormous Power Over the Events of Your Life
Events can be manipulated to solve problems you are faced with. You can change things you’re not satisfied with. While there’s no disputing the fact that you can’t always get what you want, it’s also true that you can exercise your innate power over the events of your life and make things go your way much more frequently.
To do so, you must understand and use the three mighty forces of power - desire, belief, and expectation.
Before anything you want to happen can occur,
Let’s look at each of these three forces and then see how you can put
them to work for you.
The First Power Force – Desire
Every manifestation of will is preceded by the desire to act. You must desire something before will can take action.
In order to desire something, you must believe that you will gain a measure of satisfaction from it. Anything you do, from the moment you wake up in the morning until the time you close your eyes to sleep in the evening, is precipitated by desire.
Nothing is done that does not have a degree or more of desire behind it.
To desire something is to feel there will be a measure of satisfaction after the getting of the thing.
You cannot desire a thing unless you feel there will be some satisfaction in the attainment of that desire.
Desire - Belief - Expectation
The satisfaction you feel you’ll gain from any action can be either the direct satisfaction of pleasure or the indirect satisfaction of the avoidance of pain. When you have several competing desires, the most likely choice will be the one that gives the greater measure of satisfaction. Sometimes it appears that a choice may offer the lesser amount of satisfaction; if that is the case, then look for a secondary gain.
Visiting the dentist for a root canal, for instance, hardly appears to offer satisfaction. The secondary gain in this case is the elimination of the pain in the tooth.
Elimination or avoidance of pain is often a secondary gain.Another secondary gain might be the attention of others due to an episode of discomfort, in which case the attention would more than compensate for the discomfort.
Avoidance of Pain Keeps Many People Stuck
Many people are stuck in a particular position in life simply because they feel that making a change would cause some measure of discomfort. To avoid the discomfort they linger in the existing state of affairs even though that causes discomfort as well.
The sayings “Better the devil I know than the devil I don’t” and “Don’t jump from the frying pan into the fire” express this sentiment.
Note the system of expectation at work here.
When discomfort or pain is expected, the force works to keep you from making any change, even when the pain is imagined and may never take place. Like all things, desire has degrees of strength.
Consider the story of the disciple who went to his guru one day and asked,
“Master, how do I achieve enlightenment?”
The wise old guru directed the disciple to the bank of the Ganges River and had him kneel with his head over the water. Then the guru put his hand on the young man’s neck and pushed his head below the surface of the water.
After a minute and a half the young disciple was frantic. He pulled and heaved and flailed his arms, but the grip was like iron. He could not get his head back out of the water.
After two minutes, when it seemed as though his lungs would burst, the grip was released. The young man’s head jerked out of the water and he took great gulps of air into his tortured lungs.
The guru smiled. “Tell me,” he gently asked, “ what was your greatest desire just then?”
“To breathe,” the young disciple stated emphatically.
“Ah,” the guru said.
“When you desire enlightenment to that degree, it shall be yours.”
To have a better understanding of desire, see it on an ascending scale, like a giant thermometer. At the bottom of the scale is zero, and at the top, one hundred.
Difference between weak and strong desires.
When your desire is weak, near the bottom of the scale, it is unlikely that anything will motivate you to activate your will and accomplish the object of that desire.
When your desire is near the top of the scale, nothing can keep you from success in attaining that desire.
To enhance desire, go to level and visualize the positive end result of what you desire to happen.Bring in Golden Images; make the scene brighter, larger, more colorful, and three-dimensional. Bring in as many senses as you can. You will find your desire for the event growing stronger with each visualization.
The Second Power Force – Belief
Belief is mental acceptance of some idea as being true. You accept ideas from others because they are authority figures. This setting of a belief in your mind (usually at a young and trusting age) comes about because you have absolute trust in the authority (generally the parent, sometimes the religious or educational institution, sometimes another trusted outside agency such as a relative, peer, or the media). This acceptance can come about even when there are facts that contradict it.
Reinforcement of beliefs strengthens until, faulty or true, they become a fundamental part of your thought processes. To entrench matters more, now beliefs are tested through the structure of the faulty belief, thereby compounding the problem.
What this means is that you only accept information that reinforces the belief. Information that contradicts the belief is rejected.
Therein lies one of the major problems of mankind.
Bigotry, racism, egotism, and just about every other prejudice you can think of stems from ideas that have been introduced by an outside agency and accepted by the individual.
In addition there are also group beliefs, some valid, some faulty.The power of belief to shape one’s behavior and judgment is shown in the following story.
One of our instructors, Marsha Carey, was presenting the Children’s Class to a group of Los Angeles youngsters ranging in age from seven to eleven years. The main thrust of the seminar is to instill a sense of worth in each child, to teach them that they can do or be anything they have a desire to be. To enhance their self-esteem, and turn them into good students by showing them there is not such thing as a stupid child, only those who believe they are. We have found that a good student can learn more from a bad teacher than a poor student can from a skilled teacher. This particular class had twenty children attending, one of whom, eight year-old Jane, believed that she was stupid.
Her mother thought she was stupid, as did many of her friends. Her mother told Marsha she’d be very grateful if anything could be done for the child, although she didn’t really believe it was possible in only three days.
During the class Marsha tore off a piece from a sheet of paper and told the class that it was a receptor, for it was going to receive something. She then took a penny from her pocket and placed it on the paper, putting the paper with the penny on it next to a vase on her desk. The class resumed.
The next morning she asked, “Where did I put the penny?” No one remembered; too much had happened since.
Marsha pointed to the penny, still on its piece of paper next to the vase. She then tore two sheets of paper into a hundred pieces, took two rolls of pennies from her purse, and proceeded to put a penny on each piece of paper and place it somewhere in the room. She told the class to note that each penny was being placed on a receptor. Soon the room was packed with pennies resting on small pieces of paper.
Later on that day she asked, “Where did I put the penny?” Everyone looked at her quizzically. No one was quite sure what she meant, since wherever the students looked there was a penny sitting on a small piece of paper. Pennies were on the floor, the desk, chairs, the windowsill, in front of the door, on each table— everywhere. Finally she said, “Come on, let’s all find a penny. Gather them up.” Soon every child had four, five, or six pennies. Marsha asked, “How come you all found pennies this time and you didn’t find the one I put by the vase yesterday?”
“Because there were lots of them today,” was the response. Marsha nodded, “Yes, because there were lots of pennies on lots of receptors.
"Information you put into your mind is very much like the pennies,” Marsha continued. “Information is stored on receptors in your brain called neurons. Each neuron holds a bit of information; that is what makes it a receptor, it receives. When you put the information on one receptor, it’s hard to find and you think that you have a bad memory, just like trying to remember where the single penny was."
"But when you put the information on a lot of receptors, it’s easy to find.”
The children didn’t quite understand, and so Marsha said that she would demonstrate. She distributed a sheet of paper to each child in the room. On the paper was the story of the Battle of Trenton. On a cold, wet, Christmas day in the year 1776, General George Washington, along with twenty-two hundred troops, crossed the Delaware River, attacked hired mercenaries, the Hessians, and won a crucial battle of the Revolutionary War. Marsha called eight-year-old Jane aside and said, “Come with me, Jane, I’m going to help you.”
Jane was insulted. “I know how to read." Marsha smiled. “I know that, but I’m going to help you to put the information in the story on more receptors. I’m going to show you a new way to read.”
In Marsha’s office she had Jane close her eyes and visualize the story.
Jane saw a picture of Washington in her mind’s eye. She felt the snow coming down. Marsha told Jane there were twenty-two hundred men in the army that day and had Jane visualize an owl, “because it’s got two big round eyes like two zeros,” with a twenty-two on top of its head.
When it came to the Hessians, Marsha hissed because they were the enemy, and turned the hiss into the word Hessian.
Marsha had Jane enhance the visual images: the snow was made whiter and colder; the owl was heard to hoot and was made three-dimensional; the twenty-two on top of the owl’s head grew until it filled the scene; the Delaware was seen to be wearing ice.
Marsha helped Jane to produce Golden Images. They went back to the room and Marsha retrieved the story from each child.
Later that day she asked, “What year was the battle fought?” Many knew the answer and raised their hands high. “What was the name of the general?” All of the hands went up. “What day was it?” Most knew that it was Christmas day . “How many men were in George Washington’s army?” Only one hand was raised. Jane looked around, saw that hers was the only hand in the air, and immediately pulled it back down.
Changing a Belief
Let’s stop here for a moment and get back to that business of belief and the fact that you only accept information that reinforces your belief.
Jane believed that she was stupid. Her mother believed it and her schoolteacher believed it. Most of the people who came in contact with Jane believed she was stupid and expected her to react in a stupid manner, as she herself did. But did her being the only child out of twenty students who knew the answer reinforce her stupidity? It did not; it contradicted it.
And so she rejected the information and down went the hand. She could not believe that she was the only one with the right answer.
Marsha, of course, knew that Jane had the answer because the owl with the twenty-two on its head was a strong visual image. After a bit of persuasion Marsha finally got Jane to say, “Twenty-two hundred?" Marsha nodded and told Jane that she was very good to have the answer. Jane now wondered why no one else in the room did, since the image of the twenty-two was so strong. Maybe everyone else was a bit stupid. A few more questions came and many in the class knew the answers, as did Jane.
Then Marsha asked, “What was the name of the enemy army?” Again only one hand went up. The answer was clear in Jane’s mind. “Hessians,” she stated clearly.
Jane’s belief began to change.
It had to. To retain the old belief that she was stupid would have been to reject obvious information. Marsha saw to it that new information got through. Jane either had to reject the information, which she had a tendency to do, or she had to break down the old belief and install a new one.
The new belief was that she, Jane B. was not stupid; she was in fact highly intelligent but had been putting information in her brain the wrong way, not using enough receptors. Her mother was told of the incident and immediately changed her belief about her child’s intelligence.
". . .a belief is mental acceptance of some idea as being true"
When she believed Jane was stupid, she occasionally imagined her daughter as a frumpy adult, washing dishes at a filthy sink with a bedraggled child hanging on to her apron string. With the new belief in Jane as intelligent and alert, her mother’s mental images changed.
She now saw Jane as a college student, as a professional woman, as the mother of sharp-witted, intelligent children.
This story took place some time ago. Jane’s mother calls us occasionally to inform us of her daughter’s progress. It does not surprise us to learn that Jane has been a straight-A student for so long that she no longer relates to the incident that caused it.
To help you change your expectation, recall the Principle of Correspondence - as above, so below; as below, so above. As it is with the seed, so it is with the tree.
Start with the small if you want to affect the large. If you wish to bring about a change in a friend, in a parent, child, or spouse, change your own expectation.
Begin to expect that which you desire to happen and you will note changes occurring. Expect things on a smaller scale at first, as the smaller things come into being you begin to expect the major things to happen as well.
Expectation is a force that can and should be discussed with others.
Expectation works with all people, and on all levels—on the family level, on the town, city, and country level, on the national, international, and universal level. The law is the law; what works with the small works with the mighty. What works with the molecule works with the universe.
Change your expectation and see your reality, your world, change to the degree that you wish it to change.
And eventually you will arrive at the place you wish to be