My first big press hit was The Today Show. Katie Couric said, "My friend Kara invented these bags" and my mom was elated! If I had Facebook back then, I am sure I would have received 100 "likes" from high school friends who would have thought I was really cool.
In the fun banter of Matt jabbing at Katie, playfully, for saying I was her "friend", Cojo never mentioned where to buy my bags. However, my mom called everyone she knew to say that Katie said my name.As time went on, Solas graced the pages of People, Us Weekly, In Touch etc... I was on Extra, E! News, Fox, but not Oprah!!!!! We were selling thousands and thousands of bags, but I never truly celebrated because the "mothership" refused to answer my calls. Ok, that's a lie. I might have had a glass of Champagne or two (or three, lol,) but the next day I would always wake up to this little voice in my head saying, "It's not good enough. You're not good enough."
This pic is for the .10 percent of you who didn't know this was the "mothership".The year Entrepreneur magazine considered doing a feature about me, Solas was finally considered for Oprah's Favorite Things. The article happened. Oprah didn't. Clearly, I was a loser. In the end, the closest I ever got to Oprah was when I, embarrassingly, did the "Oprah ugly cry" during my documentary when I went from a potential deal with HSN and Dillards... to almost having to claim bankruptcy.
Come on! You have all done it... you just weren't stupid enough to have the cameras rolling.My Oprah obsessed journey taught me there are two sides to the coin of success. The head is how the world interprets your achievements and your attachment to that perception. The tail is your heart string. It is your calling and it’s driven by your soul, not others'. The key to happiness is finding a way for both sides to live harmoniously. I missed the boat on a few things, those years I was chasing the big "O". First of all, the Katie Couric moment was not a failure. My soul knew it was not about selling bags it, was about giving me credibility so I could achieve my dreams. Plus, my soul really likes making my mom happy!
My head made it a failure by tying it to money. Even when I did start to achieve monetary success, I never saw myself as successful. So my tail side said, "Grrrlll didn't you learn anything?!?!? I'm about to wake your ass up!" (Cut to Oprah ugly cry and having to start all over.)
Before I wrote this article I asked my friends, "What is the meaning of success?" Some people had very specific goals in mind. However, universally, people wrote about balance. Whether it was juggling motherhood and career or work and spirituality, everyone seemed to want to balance life's mishaps with life's achievements.
I thought it would be fun to post some of the comments as a reminder to all of us to stay focused on real success.
I think at the core we all know about the two sides of the coin. We struggle with it. We feel guilty to admit we have a head side that cares about perception. We wish we always came up tails and lived our lives 100% driven by our hearts. I am here to say both sides are OK. In fact, you need that balance to achieve happiness. Just make sure your perception of things isn't clouded. It's OK to have lofty goals or aspirations in life. It's OK to be aware of what your neighbor or children or the world thinks of you, just don't let it guide you. Keep it in your peripheral vision and make sure you are always checking in with the "man in the mirror." (or should I say goddess?)
Love and Light- YOU ARE A SUCCESS!!!
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