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Focus on Facilitation: I Heart "Difficult" Clients! by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body Recently I worked with someone who yeahbutted, becaused, justified, defended, and told stories for the better part of three sessions. This isn't unusual and I handled it the ... Read on »
Helping Others While Helping Yourself by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body Ironically, some the very things we have come to view as expensive luxuries are the ones that help us to take good care of ourselves. Like many friends and colleagues all ... Read on »
Ask a Facilitator Anything! by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body How Much Time Should I Take for The Work? Q: How often do you suggest someone do The Work? It takes me about 12-20 minutes to question one belief out of maybe 20-30 beli ... Read on »
Forgive My Innocence by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body Today, which was a melancholy day for me, I feel moved to share this poem by the New England writer and Pulitzer prize-winning poet, Robert P. Tristram Coffin. Coffin, who d ... Read on »
Donate to Haitian Survivors by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body You may also enjoy visiting our main website, http://www.clearlifesolutions.com Read on »
A Happy New Year Within Reach by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body Dear Friends, In honor of this holiday season, I want to share with you some words that touched me today from, of all things, a website advertising a recovery event in th ... Read on »
What's So Bad About Negativity? by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body For years I was involved in a group whose adherents felt very threatened by any view of it that seemed to contradict what it was desperately trying to be: the "perfect" spi ... Read on »
"So Don't Do That!" by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body There's an old Henny Youngman joke that I love: "I said to my doctor, it hurts when I do that [he lifts his arm]; he told me 'So don't do that!'" As a facilitator, my "Do ... Read on »
Why Do We Blame Victims? by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body You hear it in New Age circles, therapy groups and arguments between "friends" (I've done it myself) all the time: "Stop being such a victim!" This stance smacks of a cu ... Read on »
Why We Believe, Part 4: The "Dr. Phil" Question by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body Sometimes we just love our beliefs because we are convinced they are working for us, evidence to the contrary. Let's look once again at the belief, "My husband shouldn't hav ... Read on »
Why We Believe, Part 3: Unmet Needs, or a Tantrum? by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body Our reasons (which are sometimes motives) for keeping a stressful belief can also be seen as a list of unmet needs: "I need to be right." "I need to be in control." "I need ... Read on »
Why We Believe, Part 2: When the Payoff Is Hard to Find by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body When a client (or I myself) can't easily answer the Question Three subquestion, "Why do you hold this belief? How is it serving you?" I use this additional subquestion: "Wh ... Read on »
Why We Believe, Part 1: Are You Being Served? by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body In question number three of The Work of Byron Katie, "How do you react when you believe this thought?" we sometimes use a subquestion, "Why do you hold this (stressful) beli ... Read on »
Why We Believe: A New Series of Articles for Deepening Inquiry by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body Those of you who receive my newsletter may have noticed my Clear Life Solutions tag line, "Open your mind to a limitless life." That is an invitation to something I, as a wo ... Read on »
I Am Crabby, Resentful, Jealous, Self-pitying and Totally "I"-identified Today. Is That Okay with... by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body I wrote something similar to the title of this note as my Facebook status one day. The question was sort of a joke (and sort of not!), but actually it is a very good questio ... Read on »
Ask a Facilitator: Turning Around "Shoulds" by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body Q: I have been feeling depressed for some time now, and the fear of fear, anxiety and depression has come up for me. As I question thoughts like "I shouldn't be anxious," "I ... Read on »
The Julia In Our Heads by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body In case you've been living in a cave recently, let me bring you up to date on the bestselling book that inspired the current hit movie, Julie & Julia . It's the true sto ... Read on »
Belieftown's Greatest Hits by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body I was just telling some friends that the other night while watching a PBS disco special (that is not a typo, my friends), I found myself singing along to all of the dance hi ... Read on »
Ask a Facilitator: Affirmations...Yes, or No? by ClearLifeCarol Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Mind-Body Q: I do The Work and I also practice daily positive affirmations because I really believe in their power to attract good things to life; for example, "I am perfect just the ... Read on »