People come to pain management with a wide range of attitudes and expectations. Over the past few months I’ve been reviewing the ‘goals’ that people write in their pre-appointment psychometric questionnaires, and almost without exception people write ‘Reduce my pain’ or ‘Fix my pain’. While they’ll also write down ‘do more’, ‘return to work’, ‘get a life back’ – these things are all ‘provided that…my pain is gone’.
I spent a half hour talking to a man yesterday who has spent seven years searching for firstly ‘the reason’ for his pain, and now ‘the cure’ for his pain. He told me he’s not yet ready to accept that his pain might be permanent. His life over the past seven years has consisted of appointment after appointment with specialists, numerous scans and other investigations, even more medications and medication trials, surgery at least twice, and he still says to me ‘I’m not ready to stop looking for a cure’ – and the killer for me is the next phrase ’so I can have my life back’.
Now I’m not criticising him, I feel really saddened for him and I wish there was a way to show him his future if nothing changes – because the life he’s living right now is his life, and it’s nothing like what he says he wants in his life. Everything has been put on hold over the past seven years, his job, his family, his intentions to travel, to have a social life, to have choices about what he wants in his life.
I can understand the desire to know what is going on and why chronic pain is. It’s a normal attitude to think that if a diagnosis is made, someone somewhere will be able to ‘do something’. Or is it? Where are the cures for so many chronic diseases? Diseases like diabetes, asthma, chronic obstructive airways disease, rheumatoid arthritis, osteoarthritis. None of these diseases have a cure per se – all of them are simply ‘managed’. So knowing what the diagnosis is hardly leads to ‘cure’ except in a few cases.
Knowing the diagnosis may satisfy the desire to know that ‘it’s real’ – but doesn’t remove the emotional burden of having a disease. I don’t think knowing that you have Parkinsons’ removes the burden of knowing that your physical movements are slowly deteriorating. Knowing that you have Multiple Sclerosis doesn’t lessen that emotional sting of knowing that your life will progressively become slower and more difficult.
And in each of these cases there is a clear range of management options that are usually employed that reduce the physical demands of the disease, and once diagnosed, most doctors will then stop searching for ‘another cure’.
Not so for chronic pain. It seems that in the case of chronic pain, it’s often the health professionals who drive the search for ‘another diagnosis’ to ‘find out the cause’ of the pain – as if we can’t quite accept that the nervous system can have its own dysfunction in just the same way as another body system. And once diagnosed, the management of chronic pain is much less systematic than for many other disorders, so it’s not unknown for people to be given several different ways of managing from a huge load of multiple medications to the minimalist approach of very few and lots of self management.
What should I do as a health professional working in this field when I talk with someone like the man above?
I’m not sure about a ‘rule’, but this is what I actually did do.
I don’t know whether I’ll see him again, although I said I’d give him a call in April. What I hope I offered him was the chance to feel heard, to look at the discrepancy between what he had in his life and what he wanted, and to respect his decision but let him know we’re still there. I really hope he does find his cure although I’m not confident about it. I do hope we see him again if he doesn’t'get fixed’.
Accepting chronic pain doesn’t mean giving up, but it does mean putting back into life what is important. In the pursuit of something elusive, we can lose sight of what we already have that is good, right and gives life meaning.
Clarke KA, & Iphofen R (2007). Accepting pain management or seeking pain cure: an exploration of patients’ attitudes to chronic pain. Pain management nursing : official journal of the American Society of Pain Management Nurses, 8 (2), 102-10 PMID: 17544130